How to talk with baby girl about period?

Binh - posted on 05/02/2013 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Hello every one. I have 9-year old daughter. At this age, I think my baby girl will soon face with the first period and I just want to help her to prepare for that without any fear. I'm seeking your advices and experience in talking with daughter at this age about some subject like "how was I born", or "what is period/ menstruation", etc... Your ideas are really appreciated. Thank you so much.

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Sarah - posted on 05/02/2013

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If you live in the US (not sure if book is also sold else where) there is a GREAT book by American Girl. It is written VERY well and perfect for your daughter's age. It starts out talking about just normal care of your body. Taking showers regularly, etc. It goes through developing breast (this usually happens about 2 yrs before they get their period). It also is very helpful in talking about the different kinds of bras and how to get the right size. The end of the book talks about periods and tampons and pads.

I had bought the book and then both of us sat down together and read the book together. This way we could talk about the things in the book and she could ask questions as we went through it.

PS this book was also recommended by my doctor who also has a daughter.

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Sarah - posted on 05/03/2013

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The book is called "The Care and Keeping of YOU" By American Girl. Not sure how Amazon works with Vietnam, but if you are able to order off there it is also on Amazon. Both my daughter and I have gone back to that book several times since we read it through the first time. I think she was 9 years old when we first read it.

Binh - posted on 05/03/2013

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Hi Sarah,
May you let me know the title of the Great book you mentioned.
Thank you so much.

Binh - posted on 05/02/2013

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Hi Angela and everyone,

Thank you so much for your posts. Your sharing are really helpful and I much appreciate it. And Angela, it does absolutely not offend at all. I completely understand your feeling when I call my 9-year old daughter as baby while approaching this thread. Just let you not worry, I don't treat my daughter as baby (proof that I'm aware and preparing for first period). It's just the way to call beloved one and she is quite comfortable with my way. And so, thank you so much again for your very detailed information, I have checked all the webs you provided. It really helps.
And Sarah, I live in Vietnam and am not sure I can find such a good book here. If you could tell me the title of that book, I may get help from my relatives in US to buy and send me that one. I love to have book for myself and my daughter. About 10 years ago, I had chance to read the book "How was I born" and really want to buy it now for my daughter as well.
Again, thank you all so much for your share.

Angela - posted on 05/02/2013

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I agree that with a book she can refer to it anytime she wishes, but online resources aren't so bad. Remember, MOST of the online links I gave Binh Tam were for parents. A book (or a website she accesses herself) are never any substitute for the heart-to-heart, one-to-one discussion with a parent - and the weblinks give guidance on how to talk to the adolescent daughter!

Many manufacturers of feminine hygiene products give away free books anyway. You just need to contact them.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/02/2013

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I would also recommend a book instead of online. Why? Because with a book she has access to it all the time in case she wants to review it or re-read it in privacy. A child that young should not have access to a computer whenever they feel like reading, so a book would be your safest and smartest bet.

Don't just start and stop with menstruating, puberty, and all that. Talk about hormones, and sex. Don't only give her half the information.

Dove - posted on 05/02/2013

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I also bought the book that Sarah mentions. It is a REALLY good book and a great starting point for conversations if you read it with your daughter.

Angela - posted on 05/02/2013

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Hi there Binh Tam. Firstly – and I’m sorry if this offends – I was rather surprised and dismayed to hear you refer to a nine year old as your “baby girl”. If you feel she might be hitting adolescence soon, then she’s certainly not a baby! I would have hated being described in this way at her age. A better thread title here would be “How to talk with my daughter about periods?

Anyway, to answer your question ….. There is help online with this issue – you don’t need to BUY a book (although you may if you wish!) - I'd prefer to save the money! Here are some websites that your daughter might access about this in order to find out for herself (after you’ve chatted with her):

http://www.beinggirl.co.uk/my-period?gcl...

http://www.always-info.co.uk/lifestage/t...

http://teens.webmd.com/girls/facts-about...

and of course, there are also websites you can look at yourself for guidance on discussing these matters with her:

http://www.time.com/time/magazine/articl...,9171,998370,00.html

http://www.dummies.com/how-to/content/ho...

http://www.netmums.com/coffeehouse/teens...

http://kidshealth.org/parent/positive/ta...

http://tweenparenting.about.com/od/physi...

I personally recommend buying her a few odds & ends associated with growing up. Nice toiletries (including deodorant/anti perspirant), feminine hygiene products like panty liners. This way any embarrassment either of you might feel will vanish in the excitement of getting a few goodies!

Hope this is helpful! Good luck.

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