Momma - posted on 01/23/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )
How do I tell…Well let me start from the begging. My ex husband drank himself to death after we got divorced. He had been an alcoholic for about 7 years. I finally couldn’t take it anymore and we got divorced. His parents blame ne for it all and sometime his mother tell my daughter that it was my fault he drank and died. I have called her out on this many times and she FINALLY stopped doing this. I never told my daughter how he really died, She isn’t old enough to understand what killed him . (She does know that he drank all the time. ) Its been 2 years now, she is doing better, BUT every single time she come back from see his parents (her grandparents) she come home an emotional rollercoaster. She back talks, cries act up at home and in school. It takes about 2 weeks to get her lined out, and back to the norm. We talk about her dad at home when she asks and only when she asks. But when she is there with them its all the talk about..day in day out….they have a “shrine” of him and all his stuff, they buy her things that remind her of her daddy and tell her all this crap that he “did” for her and none of it is true. They have his old truck and drive her around in it and all kinds of strange things. I know it has to be really hard on them. I could never understand how it feels to lose a child at any age and no parent should ever have to burry their child. Not matter what. How do I tell them to stop talk about him all the time to her and to stop crying over him every time they see her and talk to her on the phone? This is NOT healthy for my daughter. She is so good and happy when she hasn’t seen or talked to them. If I have to I really don’t want to but I will stop all contact with them regarding my daughter. I just need help on what to do and how to handle these issues. Please help.
From one mom to another……