How to you explain feminism to a 7 year old?

Holly - posted on 08/21/2015 ( 10 moms have responded )

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My son Levi asked me if I'm a feminist.I said yes I didn't know were he was going with it.He looked shocked."Do you hate men"."No".He looked confused and deiced I wasn't a feminist.I asks him were he heard it and he said on the bus.He goes on the middle schoolers bus with his sister so he probably heard something from the big kids.I want to explain to him what it means but I don't know how to with out confusing him and making him sexist.Any ideas?

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Raye - posted on 08/24/2015

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We went out to eat yesterday, and my son told the hostess that he could see she dyed her hair. She didn't seem to get offended by it, and just said that she needed to get her roots touched up. And I told him that it was rude of him to say things like that.

Young kids don't know tact. They will blurt out whatever is on their mind. And if they are confused about something and say something that may not be true, that can be embarrassing and hurtful to the person they spoke about. Be honest with your kids. You don't have to give them every tiny detail of information on a subject, but tell them things simply and honestly.

Your child's comment to the teacher could be that he noticed she was being treated differently than a male teacher, and that's why he said "men don't like her". Maybe he overheard her say something about being feminist, and thought that she would only feel that way if she were treated badly, and so thought he would start a conversation with her by saying the men didn't like her (meaning didn't treat her well). I don't know what was in your son's head, but he obviously expressed it wrong because his lack of knowledge on the subject.

Feminism is not about people that don't "like" women. It's that they don't think they are as capable as men. People have different strengths and weaknesses, and should be judged/paid according to their skills and strengths. Not because of their gender. There are actually some women who feel that women are not as capable on the whole as men. And that's even worse when women don't take up for themselves and other women.

About the "donor" thing... I agree with Jodi that if you had sex with a guy to get pregnant, then he is not a sperm donor. People who express it this way are trying to fool themselves into taking less responsibility for their actions in choosing a sexual partner and not practicing safe behavior with that partner. So, when asked about the dad, you could say that you both made some bad choices and sometimes it's better for people to live apart. If you were artificially inseminated, then just say that you wanted to have a baby and you went to the hospital where they put something inside you to make a baby. Be honest, but keep it simple.

If you don't teach your child, then he's left getting all his information from other misinformed children and will be really confused about things... as you are finding out.

Michelle - posted on 08/24/2015

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Good point Jodi, didn't even pick that one up. Unless he is at boarding school (which means you wouldn't have seen him either) he hasn't seen his teacher for a couple of days.

Jodi - posted on 08/24/2015

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I'm sorry, but can I ask if you actually went through artificial insemination to have your child? Because unless you did, you have no right teaching your child that his father is a sperm donor!!!

Secondly, you explained to your son what I suggested...it was the weekend. How was he suspended?

Holly - posted on 08/23/2015

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His teacher seems really nice though I know she's really young.I set up a meeting with her for tomorrow with Levi so I think he'll set things start.Levi is upset cause a meeting with his teacher and having to sit in the office at school

When he was 6 he told some guy that his mom had sex with a stranger when he kept asking who his dad was I taught him the word donor.he says the most embrassing things but he doesn't know that.

Michelle - posted on 08/23/2015

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I would be talking to the teacher and discussing what really happened. It seems a bit tough to be suspended for saying something like that.
It may help the teacher understand the conversations you've been having with him as to why he then said that to her.

Holly - posted on 08/23/2015

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7 and its "in school" suspension and I really think about pulling my kids and sending them to a different one but their friends are there.

Jodi - posted on 08/23/2015

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How old is your son? I find it odd that he would get suspended for something like that.

Holly - posted on 08/23/2015

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I explain it that way to him and keeps asking why people don't think that way.I said cause some people are mean and don't like men or woman and he told his teacher that men didn't like her.He got suspended and he's confused

Jodi - posted on 08/22/2015

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A feminist is simply a person who supports feminisim, so it is really feminism that you need to define to your child. Just explain that feminism is the belief that men and women have equal rights and opportunities.

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