How young is to young for a baby to stay with her dad who live 600miles away?

June - posted on 07/02/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I just had my daughter and her father got transferred back home. He wants his family to see my daughter before she turns one year old. Its good that he wants to be with her and for her to meet his family. But, I feel she is to young to travel all that way without me. Especially to stay the weekend with him.

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September - posted on 07/02/2012

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Why can't you just go with her and stay at a hotel? If he's able to care for her and you're in the same town then what's the big deal? Personally I would not allow my 5 month old baby to travel 600 miles without me.

Kaitlin - posted on 07/02/2012

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Honestly, I would tell him it's both or nothing until she's a few years old. Plus, if it's 4-5 months, you may be breastfeeding, so she really can't be too far from you unless she's skilled with a bottle and you're skilled with a pump.

If he wants to see her, he can travel to visit, or maybe he can chip in for a hotel room for the two of you close to him and his family,

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MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 07/02/2012

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I know I would have a very difficult time with this, too. I would have to travel with, in the very least.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/02/2012

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Does he know how to care for her? Her signals/cries, etc?

Are you afraid he won't bring her back? If that's the case, get custody set before he goes. If you are only hesitating because you think she'll need you...I hate to say this, but at that age, they're pretty content, as long as they have one person they know holding them.

I would have let my hubby (whether we were married or not) take his kids for any amount of time, at any age. He's their dad. I didn't have to worry about it, for which I'm thankful.

I think, maybe, you should look at why you're uncomfortable, and address each point with him. If he can give you satisfactory answers, then let him have at it.

June - posted on 07/02/2012

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Shawn, he stated that he did not want me to come. Due to the fact that he is now leaving with his second mother of his second child. Yes making me mom three with his third child. He has tried to keep his two worlds separate but now since I had his child. The truth finally hit the fan. However despite every wrong that he has done against me. I don’t hold grudges and I encourage him to see her. But, I feel I need to accompany my child because he wants to take her when she is four or five months old.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/02/2012

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Why can't you travel with them?

My initial opinion is that she'll be just fine, and that daddy will take just as good care of her as you do.

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