how young is to young for daycare?

Bec - posted on 02/05/2010 ( 19 moms have responded )

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how young is to young for daycare? whats everyones opions on ages in daycare? im just interested in what everyone thinks is an appropriate age....

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Sharon - posted on 02/06/2010

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There is no such thing as to young.

People insist on comparing todays motherhood to the caveman days and once upon a time villages left their children in creches to be watched by a couple of older women and possibly a wetnurse so they could work the fields.

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I think it depends on the parents and how they feel but personally I didn't put my daughter into daycare until she was 11 months of age. Not because we couldn't but because we had extended family in the area that was willing to babysit her for us during the first years of her life. I know at my daughter's daycare they do not take infants until they are 6 months of age because of the one on one care they recieve from the providers. I will say this if we didn't have the extended family in the area when I went back to work after 3 months DH would have changed his schedule at work to work nights until she was 6 months and we could put her into the daycare system. We are very fortunate to have found a daycare that works with her one on one with her speech delay.

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S - posted on 10/29/2013

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I HAD to put my daughter in daycare while I completed my last year of undergrad, however I did so at my universities daycare for the time blocks that I had class...literally 2-4 hour blocks, maybe 2-3 times a week, solely when I had class....mainly because I just was not comfortable, she was a little over a year old at that time. I did not like the feeling whatsoever because she could not really talk, it lasted for about 6 months

Now, I have absolutely no qualms about her going to 'school', shes a little over 2 years of age, and can communicate with me, I am 100% more comfortable, she let's me know who her friends are, who she doesn't like, what she ate, what she did...it puts me at ease! Not to mention, she cheers on Sunday nights, knowing she has 'school' the next day lol

I don't NEED to put her in daycare mind you, I do just so she can socialize with other little people.
I also am very fortunate to be able to have subsidized daycare in Toronto, Canada. Otherwise she would not be able to go to daycare, because it would cost approx $1500/month for full time care *faints*

Hanna - posted on 02/09/2010

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if you're scared to put your baby in daycare, see if you can find a SAHM who is willing to watch your baby. that's what i did (although for reasons other than scared, they closed at 6 and it was $1/per minute afterwards, so if my husband got held up at work, we'd be screwed) so i found a lady who is staying home with her youngest son (3yrs old, youngest of 3) and watches another 2 girls part-time for a few hrs a day (after school until their mom & dad can come get them in the evening). we lucked out. my son got the exposure he needed to other people and other kids, and he was safe and he absolutely loved it (to the point that after about a month, i started freaking out that he liked the sitter better than mommy).

if you have the luxury of staying at home with your baby until he/she starts elementary school, that's great, go for it! although you should expose your baby to other people and other kids to help develop the necessary social skills. however, if you need to go back to work, no age is too early because what's the alternative? quit your job and lose either half of your savings or be out on the street? good luck!

Tina - posted on 02/06/2010

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For me, I didn't choose to put my children into daycare until they were old enough to communicate to where they could be undetstood. I obviously trusted the daycare provider, but I wanted to make sure that my child could verbaly tell me things that were going on.

Debbie - posted on 02/06/2010

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I tried when my daughter was three and it didn't work out so well. So then tried again slowly when she was four and it worked. So I guess it depends on the child.

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I returned to work when my son was 6 months old, and I placed him in a home care setting. I felt it was a better setting than a daycare facility. But then the provider moved, and I transitioned him into a traditional daycare center at 17-18 months. I admit it was a rocky start and we had issues here and there over the course of the next 3 years. But if you are just needing some Mommy time, and want to begin socializing your child with his peers, then 2 1/2-3 is a good age.

Jodi - posted on 02/06/2010

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Hi Bec. I put my son in daycare when he was 5 months. At the time, we didn't have a choice we needed my income because we were on the verge of going broke, and my husband (now ex) had badly broken his arm in a STUPID accident and was out of work, but was also unable to take care of our son. I really investigated the centres thoroughly, and was extremely happy with the daycare he attended. He was there full time until he started school. I wouldn't have done it if I'd had a choice, but I didn't, so it is what it is.

With my daughter, I have had the privilege of being home with her. However, because I work from home, and also because I decided she needed more interaction with children her own age, I put her in daycare when she was 3. Personally, I think that daycare is ideal for them at that age. She absolutely loved it, and made some great friends there. She then moved on to pre-school, and is now, this year, at school. Honestly, I do believe that ideally, age 2-3.

Tcordukes - posted on 02/05/2010

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oh and i wouldn't start them any later then 3yrs cause i think my then they need the interaction with other children....

Tcordukes - posted on 02/05/2010

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i would say 1yr old but i don't like the idea of paying someone to babysit my babies, i had them and they are my responsablity...i didn't have them for someone else to care for them also the cost in Aust can be quite expencive. in saying this we are just starting my son now due to the fact he is way to dependent on me..( can not even leave the room) he is 15mth so i would say 1

Lacey - posted on 02/05/2010

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my sons dad and i have talked it over and decided that i am gonna be a stay at home mom until our son is old enough to talk very well..that way he can let us know if anything happened that shouldn't have such as them spanking him when they are not suppose too..i had a bad experience when i was younger my brother was in daycare and myself in school but my mom was a single mom so she had to work all the time so when i was out of school for holidays i had to go to daycare with my brother well i little boy hit my brother with a toy and so my brother bite him back the daycare worker didn't see the other little boy hit him but she saw the bite mark on his arm and so she spanked my brother and when my mom got there i told her what happened and the daycare worker tried to deny it..so if i ever have to put my son in daycare it will be when he is old enough to speak very well

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Ideally a baby needs one to one care until at least 1 year old as part of the bonding process but some mums circumstances do not allow this so if baby is very young I would only place in a family day care house if grandparents are not willing or available. As the child gets older it does depend on where and how long they will be left. By 3 most children are ready to socialize with other children.

Nicole - posted on 02/05/2010

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I put my son in daycare for 1 day a week when he was 3 mths old, just to give myself a break. I didn't go back to work until he was 11 mths old then he went for 3 days a week. When he was almost 2 I went back to work fulltime so he went in for 5 days then. Depends on the daycare centre as to whether they will take a baby as young as 2 weeks but around 3 mths I think is okay (maybe not fulltime but parttime).
I found daycare to be great for teaching my son to share as he had no other siblings at the time. And it helped to ease him into fulltime daycare when I needed to go back to work.

Deva - posted on 02/05/2010

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My son has been in Day care since he was 6 weeks old and he is a well adjusted little guy. It really depends on your situation. I think it really depends on where you will take them. You have feel comfortable with who you leave your child with. I think Day Care is important because it does teach your child social skills.

Peita - posted on 02/05/2010

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I am a childcare worker and I have seen as young as 2 weeks old start!! I think that that is way too young, I think if you really need to go back to work then try and hang out till 5 months, but if you can wait, then 12 months is even better! The advantage of starting really young is that your children adjust very quickly, but they also miss out on that bonding time with their parents!! It also depends on how many days you are looking at using, 2 -3 days is better for really little ones than full time! Everyone's circumstances are different and I have never judged anyone for going back to work very early or just needing a 'break' from their child, you need to do what works for you and your child!!!

Tiffany - posted on 02/05/2010

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well they say that they are allowed to go at 6 weeks old but i didn't start taking my daughter to daycare until she was 3 months old.

Nikki - posted on 02/05/2010

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If I had it my way my son wouldnt be in daycare til he could talk, Im just not comfortable leaving him in strangers care without him being able to tell me what goes on. But we are planning on having another baby after he turns one , so Im going to need to go back to work for a little while so I qualify for parental leave again, so we will have to put him in daycare by that time he will be around one and half

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