Hubby Help??

Danielle - posted on 01/10/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )

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This is my first baby and she is great. I am married to a wonderful, loving man. I wanted to know from the moms here how helpful the husbands were when the baby was just a few weeks/months old? Let me throw in that I breastfeed almost exclusively.

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Kayla - posted on 01/10/2014

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With our first baby, my husband was very nervous to give her a bath, but he would change diapers, and feed her. And if she wasn't falling asleep easily, he would always take her and rock her to sleep (he's a pro at that!)
Once our second came along, he wasn't nervous at all, with any of it. He was a great help. And then our third baby, and he helped out even more.
He sometimes still offers to get up with the baby at night to feed her or change her, but I can't sleep when she is up! I just have the feeling that she needs her mommy, so I always get up first in the night with her, as I did with all 3.
Every person is different though for sure. It doesn't come as naturally to some as it does to others. My sisters fiance doesn't help her with anything when it comes to the baby!

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Danielle - posted on 01/12/2014

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I think because my daughter breastfeeds, that makes it harder. He really can't participate in the feeding so when she is up, I am up. He does help out with diaper changes and soothes her but because he works two jobs and is gone most of the day, the major responsibility ultimately falls on me. I was just wondering, I have asked around and overall it seems to be the same for new borns. Now when then kids get older, I hear that the hubby's help out a lot more.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/10/2014

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It depends on the person, Danielle. Some dads are stellar at participating in the raising of their child. Some are uncomfortable with it. Some don't feel they're patient enough, or whatever. Others are better with the babies than some moms.

What did you and hubby discuss before baby was born, as far as duties, responsibilities, etc?

For example, my hubby did everything from diapers to feedings and in between with both of our kids. But, his friend (who was a first time dad about a year after our eldest) was scared to death, and needed some coaching and some time to get used to baby.

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