Starr - posted on 01/25/2013 ( 17 moms have responded )
Okay so here is the deal, my husband is so controlling with the money. He treats me as if I were one of our teenagers. I do work and bring in my own money but I pay out at least 50% of my take home on car payments and gas, not to mention I pay all our insurances, food for five, cheer expenses for two kids and clothes for myself and three kids. I don't have anything left after all this. Also I have been receiving my paychecks late because of cash flow issues at my company. He makes way more extra money than I do, when I check his checking account there is anywhere from $5k to $10k at any given moment. Would it really kill him to kick down a couple hundred here and there?
So I saw a therapist last month and he mentioned what leverage I had that can be used when my husband acts like a douche and I honest couldn't answer, I had nothing. He doesn't care about too much as long as he gets to do what he wants to do when he wants to do it, which he always does, I have no control over that. I can simply not be around when he needs to leave and has the baby but he will just leave her with our teenagers or drop her off at the sitters so that doesn't work. Or if someone needs to be picked up and he doesn't want to do it he just calls me, if I can't or refuse, then he leaves them there until I get a phone call and am forced to do it. He could care less about dinner or stuff like that. We seriously don't have sex but once every few months. He has been making comments lately about it like if I do X he will let me buy Y. I'm thinking if he's pushing for sex more often, he needs to provide me with spending money and help with my expenses as well:) Crazy I know....