HUG YOUR KIDS

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/06/2015 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Here it goes again. It seems like a semester doesn't pass without some kid, somewhere, taking their own life because of circumstances...A beautiful young lady was lost in our community this week. Thousands of kids knew this girl, hundreds closely (pretty large area, graduating class size is usually over 300)...and she felt alone, depressed and ugly.

HUG YOUR KIDS. VALUE THEM. Teach them to value themselves, and give them the tools in their emotional arsenal to do so. NOTICE what's going on. SEE the signs. None of these kids just magically disappear into the night...they exhibit signs and symptoms. DON'T BE SO ABSORBED in your own life that you do not notice what's happening to others.

I'm so devastated...and this wasn't even my daughter! I want to wrap her momma up in love...no one should lose a kid this way...or any way! This girl WAS NOT ignored in her home, she was doted on and loved...but she didn't think her parents would understand, so she never opened up to them...

This doesn't really need a response...just go home and LOVE AND HUG YOUR KIDS...

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Sarah - posted on 02/08/2015

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Absolutely heartbreaking. On top of letting your kids know that they are treasured, that they are worthy and important: Please remind them that there is nothing they can do, no amount of trouble they can get in, no problem so great, that you would ever give up on them or not forgive them under any circumstances.
We lost a 13 year old to suicide about two months ago. She was terrified to tell her parents that she got caught cheating in school. Eighth grade! Her whole life ahead of her.

Gena - posted on 02/06/2015

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My love and thoughts go out to you,her family,her friends and everybody that knew her. I cant say i will pray because i dont pray. But i will light a candle today specially for her! ♥

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/06/2015

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I've always made a point to explain to my kids (and any others hanging at my house)...It is normal and natural to feel these feelings, as long as we can open up and let people in.

I was mercilessly bullied in school, and at one point did ask my folks to pull me out of school. At that time, there was no home school option, and no alternative school option...so I was stuck. Had to suck it up and keep going. I dreaded school for 3 years. My parents loved me, but didn't understand...or I didn't think they would...but my youth pastor did. And he helped me SO much, to handle the situation and move forward. NOW I know that both of my parents would have more than understood, and been supportive...but I didn't get it then.

That's why I've always tried to make our space (whether its home, our market booth, our business, or our camping area) welcoming to any and all kids who need to talk, need a hug, need some confidence...I wish my niece would have introduced me to her friend...I also make sure that in my regular work at University, I'm interacting with and keeping an eye on students...because yes, even college students still need someone to help them with their confidence, etc.

Jodi - posted on 02/06/2015

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When we lost a student last term, when I heard the news, that was the first thing I did. I hugged my kids. And I so felt for the parents of that girl who would never be able to do that again - a girl who also came from a good home but would never open up and kept her pain to herself - so much to herself not even her friends knew what was going on.

It is a shock for an entire school community, and compounded when she actually left a note requesting no-one from the school, not even her friends - was to attend her funeral. Incredibly difficult to deal with.......

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/06/2015

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Raye, it seems you do have a great relationship with your step kids, which is awesome! I hope that he does see the love and realize that you'll 'have his back'...and that he'll open up to you.

Good luck! you and he will be in my thoughts tomorrow morning ;-)

Raye - posted on 02/06/2015

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Shawnn, so sorry. My stepson has mentioned a couple times that he doesn't like himself. When we ask why, he just says "because I don't". My husband and I show an interest in both kids and give them affection, but their bio-mom ignores them a lot. :( I have him to myself tomorrow morning, so I think I'm going to try to really talk to him about it. You're right, people don't just wake up one day and off themselves. There are signs of personal struggle leading up to it. I'd be devastated if that happened to one of my kids.

Dove - posted on 02/06/2015

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♥ ♥ I can't imagine. We haven't experienced this yet and I hope and pray we don't... but I know it's very possible in the future. :(

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/06/2015

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Dove, when my son handed me the letter from the school, he was in tears. (this is my 6'5" 17 yo teddy bear) I asked if he knew the girl directly, and he said no, that he knew of her, but didn't "know, know" her...but I found out that my niece was one of her really good friends. Have a feeling I'm gonna have a houseful of teens this weekend, but that's ok.

I'm just heartbroken...

Dove - posted on 02/06/2015

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When I hug the teenagers they look at me like I've lost my mind. lol I know they like it though. ♥

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