Tyonna - posted on 12/17/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )
I have recently stopped talking with my mother and feel extremely hurt by some of the things she has done. I want to list a few things she has done and get some feedback on what I should or should not do about it.
1.) She has always played favorites between all five of her kids.
2.) When I had my daughter is May this year, she "did not have time or money to come see me have my child". The week after I had my daughter, she dropped $1500 down on my step-dads car and the following month took a week off work to see my sister have her baby.
3.) Whenever I was to call my mother to talk with her about anything, she was always "too busy" to talk and ended up hanging up on me.
4.) She will fork out tons of money on my sister whenever she needs it and doesn't expect her to pay it back, but when I needed money to find a place to live when I got evicted, she couldn't help me. Whatever money she HAS sent me in the past, she had expected my to pay her back.
5.) She resents me because I remind her of my father and she hated him (hence the reason my mother and father split up).
6.) She has avoided coming to see my son and daughter, but made special trips to my sister's (and even helped her move back to her house) to see her son. She has only seen my son twice (he is 4) and has yet to see my daughter (7 months).
I want to call her and talk with her, but I feel I did nothing wrong by confronting her about how I feel right now. She has hurt me in more ways than one (over the past 12 years at LEAST), but I still feel like I did something wrong. Please help me about what I should or should not do... I'm at a loss right now.