husband abroad custody children and we have newborn

Marcelle - posted on 07/05/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




My husband works abroad and only returns every 3 months, we recently got a baby girl and also recently got custody of his 3 older sons 17,16 and 12.. He is not home to decipline then and they are not interested is anything I say. I'm getting the impression that they are jealous of the baby too because they can see how much a mother is suppose to love her child. They have been abandoned by their mother. I'm struggeling to be more affectionate towards them and I'm still getting used to the idea of having such older kids. I'm 25 now and my husband is 42. I feel overwhelmed by the responsibility. I have to make this work because I love my husband to death. Please advise


Ev - posted on 07/05/2013




Take your time with it. Talk to your husband when he is home and have a family meeting and let him set the tone for how his sons need to be around you. Set up a chore list for all in the house to do and abide by it. Set up rules to cover all the kids and stick to it. Set up consequences for the rules and chores if they are not followed or done. Have your husband tell them how important it is to work as a team in this while he is gone.

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