Husband and I can't agree on preschool because son keeps getting sick.

Megan - posted on 02/29/2016 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Ladies, I'm in need of some advice. My 3 year old son has been going to a preschool three times a week for about two months but has been constantly sick. My husband says it's the school not keeping things clean and I say it's because he is building his immune system. My husband won't agree to take him back to the school and wants to find a new one because his mother who is a PA and honestly a stubborn woman says it's the school. The problem is there is not another one nearby that my husband will let him go to. The one he wants is near my college but far from the house so if there was ever an issue with my school schedule my husband most likely would not be able to pick him up because he works in a completely opposite side of town (basically almost another town away) and has to leave for work as soon as I get home from school. My daughter is almost two and I want to put her in school as well. If I put my kids in the one by my school, that leaves everything up to me as far as dropping them off, picking them, up, and any other issue that arise with it. Also I am the one who gets them ready for the day so it will all be on my plate. Right now my husband can easily pick up my son if I need him to. I feel that my husband doesn't even want them in school because they don't have to be and it inconveniences him (even though it doesn't). My kids however thrive on the stimulation from school and it sets the rest of our day up for success. If my son doesn't go to school, he just stays at home with their dad while I'm at school and to be honest I think they just watch tv the whole time besides playing a little bit. Also the rest of the day, my son is so built up with energy that he gets into trouble the rest of the day. My husband is a great dad but seems to be going through a rough patch but I can't take my kids to a school if he doesn't agree and vise versa. I'm at a loss and I don't want to switch my son to another school. Any advice would help please!! I've set up a meeting with my sons current school but I don't exactly know what to say.

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Dove - posted on 02/29/2016

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Almost every kid I know starts getting sick a lot more often for a while when they start spending more time w/ other kids regardless of the cleanliness factor of the facility... whether that is daycare, frequent playgroups, preschool, or elementary school.

Kids (even the healthy ones) are germy little buggers. It typically evens itself out after a few months though.

Megan - posted on 02/29/2016

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Thank you for your replies ladies! Your responses have helped me back myself up a lot.

Sarah - posted on 02/29/2016

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I agree with Evelyn and would like to add;
As long as your children have healthy immune systems, and the daycare is a certified or credentialed facility, you are correct. Yes kids get sick when they first start communing with other kids. The daycare should have a "sick kid" policy that outlines when you should keep your child home. The biggest problem is the other parents who don't follow the guidelines. I am a school nurse and I see this all the time; child comes to me around 11-12 with a fever. I ask if child did not feel good when they woke up and often they say "yes but mommy gave me the purple (pink or white) medicine to make me better". So then I get a rash of kids from that grade coming down the bug that the already sick kid brought in to the school. You can keep kids home and isolated only so much. A trip to the grocery store, church or the library poses more exposure risk than a well run daycare.

Ev - posted on 02/29/2016

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Well, I worked in a preschool setting for over 10 years and I can say that you are correct in your assessment of the issue. When kids start new in a preschool or day care, they will get sick off and on as they are building up their immune systems being around other kids. Its not that the school staff is not keeping the rooms, toys, surfaces, and other things clean, its the fact that germs spread through also touching faces (noses and mouths mostly at this age), touching things another child has touched, touching each other on hands or face, and so on. That is what spreads the germs. A preschool can not be completely germ free. It would have to be a sterile environment and the kids would have to wear gowns, gloves, and masks to keep from getting sick...almost a kid in a bubble kind of thing. Your husband needs to wake up and realize that when the kids are school age they are going to also get sick in similar fashion in a public or private school.

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