Cindy - posted on 10/25/2016 ( 11 moms have responded )
This may be a bit TMI for some for sure.. but I need some perspective from other wives. Let me start by saying I have a happy marriage in and out of the bedroom. My husband is a terrific guy. But lately my sex drive has been down. Now this is the part that I'm worried and feeling guilty about. I've known for a long time that my husband can bend far enough to perform oral sex on himself... But it's not something he does because it was a bit physically awkward (obviously) and because our sex drives were matched for many years. Well resently my drive has dropped, and one night a few months ago after having a few glass's of wine my husband wanted to have sex. I wasn't really in the mood, and I had a pretty strong buzz from the wine at the time which I'm sure is why I said this.. "I don't really know if I'm in the mood babe, but if your really in the mood why don't you do your BJ trick and I'll help out" he looked at me like I was crazy at first but I assured him it was fine. "It'll be fun" long story short, he went ahead and did it while I provided some excitement with my hand on his testies. I wasn't sure if he was going to ( tmi I know ) finish in his mouth it'll not, but he did.. I almost said something like WTF ! lol but then I thought, oh well what the hell. Might as well just go for it and enjoy himself. And No clean up, that's a bonus, so why not. Now... this is where the guilt ones in, since then I have started to suggest it more frequently,
I help out so it's more enjoyable for him and tell him I really like doing it. It excites him that I like something so kinky, so he does it. I don't "really" like doing it.. I'm impartial. I do it because we don't need to have sex as much anymore, it's pretty fast and very easy for me & there's zero after sex clean up. Am I a shitty wife for doing what I'm doing ???