Husband deployed, diagnosed with CIN 2, should I see if he can come home?

Chelsea Lee - posted on 11/07/2014 ( 6 moms have responded )

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We have a 3 month old baby, I was recently diagnosed with CIN 2/3. Should I ask to see if he can come home to help support me and take care of the baby while I handle my medical issues? Or am I over reacting? They are sending a few of the guys in his unit home to be with their wives when they have babies so it's not like they need all their guys to stay...

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[momoftwo] - posted on 11/07/2014

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I don't mean to scare you but you would be toying with your life if you did that. My mom was stage 3 and they said if she waited another month or three they would have sent her home to die.

You need to worry about your health now so you can take care of the baby you have now. I really hope you make the right choice because I reaaaalllly strongly suggest treatment as soon as you can. You could also explain to your doctor that you do want more children so maybe there is a different-type procedure they can do to get rid of it and you'd still be able to possibly try for a baby after its all done.

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Sarah - posted on 11/09/2014

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You need to get and complete treatment BEFORE having more babies. What did your doctor tell you the plan of care is?

Chelsea Lee - posted on 11/07/2014

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So you don't think getting home home and trying for one more is a good idea? It can progress that fast?

I thought maybe he could come home and we can have one more baby and they just go full out hysterectomy...

[momoftwo] - posted on 11/07/2014

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Oh goodness no. If you wait any longer it may end up too late. The second you hit stage 4 they send you home to die. My mom saw that happen to a lady. Poor woman. :(

I would never say its not a big deal are they crazy? It's cancer for crying out loud, it kills people all the time! I'm scared s***less of it. lol
If it were me personally I would call the hubby and tell him to come home, like I said he'd probably be scared too and want to be home with you.

Whatever type of treatment my mom had (not sure what its called) but they burned it out and then BOOM she hit menopause right after.
Unfortunately thems the consequences of cancer (whether we want it to happen or not) it would make having a baby damn-near impossible or super complicated but I find it's worth the sacrifice so they can have their mommy/wife. :)
I'm so happy to hear that you already have a baby though because I've been seeing so many sad stories online of women that want/wanted a family but couldn't because of their treatments and they didn't even have kids beforehand. :(

Chelsea Lee - posted on 11/07/2014

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Thank you! It honestly hasn't really hit me yet... if that makes sense. I still just feel like it was an abnormal pap (I've have 3 of those in the past that all came back normal after further testing). I've had other wives tell me "Call him get him home NOW!" and other wives say "Oh its not that big of a deal, get the treatment and everything will be fine."

My biggest concern is the treatment they said can cause late term miscarriages and can make staying pregnant difficult and we have always wanted a big family, with deployments and him being gone every other year I don't have time to pop out 3 more kids before I get treatment.

[momoftwo] - posted on 11/07/2014

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Well I don't think you are over reacting because that is very scary. Heck I was diagnosed with HSIL and that's ALMOST the beginning and I was on the verge of a breakdown (cause I saw my mom go through cervical cancer) and she was stage 3.
I think that if you can have a friend or family member help you out do it a.s.a.p since you are going to have to go through surgery/treatment. And if your hubby doesn't already know I still think you should tell him because I bet he would rather be at home supporting you through this tough time. I wish you all the best and hope everything goes as planned. You can do it!

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