Edith - posted on 11/07/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )
We have been together for 4 years, I'm 27 weeks pregnant. I had to stop working because of my hip, back and knee pain about a month ago. This is our first pregnancy. My doctor told me that I should stay at home and take it easy, I can't even walk for more than 15 minutes without feeling A LOT of pain in my hips and back. The doctor told me I can't mop the floors, I should not stand for a long time and just basically lay down as much as I can because I still get pain when just sitting down. My husband does not help around the house, I understand he is tired after work but when I was working and pregnant I still was the one that cleaned around the house while he played on his video games. I can't live like this, the trash is just piling up, he doesn't even do the dishes, he leaves them all over the house. Mold starting to grow on some plates, it's just disgusting. He knows I can't do the dishes, he was with me at the doctors.. He hasn't ONES mopped the floors since we MOVED into this apartment (about 8 months ago) So I have no option but to clean everything and every time. I'm not asking him to do everything, I'm just asking for help but no matter what I say or do he just says he is sorry and keeps doing the same stuff over and over again. I just feel so alone in all of this and I'm embarrassed to talk about this to friends and family because I don't understand how this is fine with him. I have so many times just cleaned the house and cried because of the pain that I feel by just standing. When he sees me cleaning he gets pissed off and tells me to sit down because he knows I'm not supposed to be doing this but it doesn't get done when I sit down. He just plays his video games whenever he comes home til we go to sleep. I have to nag him everyday just so I can get some help...JUST A LITTLE! We even were screaming at each other last night (which has never happened before, we have always been able to just sit down and talk about things) but when we had argued for some time that's when he decides to do something and does the dishes. He says that I'm guilt trapping him. But I get no help around the house if we don't argue. And this upsets me a lot and he knows it does.