Husband doesn't let me attend my church anymore - what do i do???

Aileen - posted on 05/12/2014 ( 17 moms have responded )

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Help, I need advice. I have been remarried for almost 2 years, and I have a 17 year old daughter that attends my church regularly and is also involved in the dance ministry. Prior to getting remarried, my husband new that I was Christian and I loved Jesus. He new the church I attended and new of my beliefs. I believe my mistake was that I married outside of church, he is an atheist, in addition, he grew up in a family that practiced witchcraft. But I new him for many many years and sincerely loved him with all my heart. In the beginning he had no issues with me attending church and even going to bible study once a week. However, as time passed I noticed a change in him. He started finding any reason to hate the church or speak bad of people I knew there. After a while, he became sick with a strange skin disease and somehow succumb to asking God for help. I prayed for him, he received Jesus and he was healed. Then shortly after, little by little, he went back to his old ways, and they issue on skin came back. Now he has forbidden me from attending my church and prayer group. He wont even allow me to speak to anyone from that specific church. He made my mother's day, the worst mother's day I ever had in my life.

I need advice. I know the bible says to submit, but I need direction. Does this apply?

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Does he give you any specific reason for you not to go to church other than that he doesn't believe? I would be so upset if my husband did that to me. I would be going to church whether he liked it or not. And I would continue to pray for direction on what to do as well as pray for him.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/13/2014

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Dove's got an excellent point...The bible only applies if your husband shares your religious views. Since he does not, then you are well within your rights to tell him that you're going to church.

Dove - posted on 05/13/2014

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And yes... I know what that verse says, but your first commitment is to honor God... second commitment is to honor your husband. If your husband is telling you to go against God... Well, therein lies a conflict and I guess it's up to you if you will follow God or your husband.

Dove - posted on 05/13/2014

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You go to church. The whole submitting thing only works if your husband is a Christian man following God... not an abusive, controlling manipulator. Go to church and seek counsel there.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/13/2014

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Counseling. He needs to respect your beliefs, and you need to respect his.

Neither should be dictating to the other.

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I'm so glad he's realized what he did was wrong. Praying that one day he will want to come along with you. :) Good luck!

Aileen - posted on 05/15/2014

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Thank you for the advice Kelsey. I appreciate your feedback. In prayer I asked God to give me wisdom to speak to him and direction and to bring conviction over his life...and when I confronted him, the conviction was so strong, that he told me he was sorry for what he had done and that he would not want to stop me from seeking God.

It was breakthrough!! I will be going back to my church on Sunday. Thank you to each of you for your kind words, advice and prayers. It helped me so much. God bless each and every one of you. :)

Aileen - posted on 05/13/2014

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Thank you all so much for the advice, you are all absolutely right. I will be attending my church this Sunday. I trust in God and know that all things work for the good of those who love him.

Patricia - posted on 05/13/2014

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Hi Aileen:

I just read your post and I think you should immediately bring him in to see your Pastor and let him talk to your husband about his beliefs, or non-beliefs, and why he is so insistent on making your life difficult at this point in your marriage. You might have a big decision to make - choosing Jesus and his Father as the center of your spiritual life or choosing to stay married to a man that might never truly accept your Savior into his heart. I personally would choose God every time.

Aileen - posted on 05/13/2014

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Amen Eric! Thank you for speaking life into this situation! That's what I needed to hear! God is faithful

Eric - posted on 05/12/2014

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The Power of Prayer is SOOO STRONG!! Just believe and keep believing and always know that the teacher(God) is always quite during.a test.

Tanya - posted on 05/12/2014

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He shouldn't try to change who you are and you shouldn't change who you are.

He met you this way and fell in love with you this way, he should still respect your beliefs as he did before.

Aileen - posted on 05/12/2014

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Sarah,

Amen. Thank you for understand and for your advice. I will be praying and waiting on an answer from God, meanwhile seeking guidance from a church.

In reference to submitting to an unequally yoked husband, this scripture has been ministering to my life:

1 Peter 3:1
In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands. Then, even if some refuse to obey the Good News, your godly lives will speak to them without any words. They will be won over.

Thank you for responding and God bless.

Sarah - posted on 05/12/2014

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I am not condemning. You stated that the bible says to submit. I am stating that the bible also says to not be unequally yoked. If you are considering the submitting part of the bible then you also must consider the part about not being unequally yoked. God does not say submit to someone who is unequally yoked. You have to take into consideration the content in which God makes the statements. No one can tell you what to do. That is a decision you have to make and live with. My advise to you would be to pray and ask God what his wish would be for you. Also seek out your pastor and talk to him/her about things as he/she may be another person that can guide you through this process.

Aileen - posted on 05/12/2014

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I am not perfect, I am sure you also fall short of His glory; the bible says we all do. I am looking for help and advice, not for condemnation.

Thank you anyways and may God bless you.

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