Husband doesn't like the idea of a midwife - info sessions in calgary?

Rebecca - posted on 06/09/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I really want to try to get in with a midwife if we have another child since my first delivery did not go so great and ended up with a c-section and a lot of pain since I was allergic to the stitches.

My husband is nervous about the idea of a midwife, especially considering the circumstances last time. Does anyone know if there are any information sessions in Calgary that we can attend?

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Johnny - posted on 06/09/2012

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Try giving this group a call: http://www.alberta-midwives.com/aam/

They may have something similar. Or at least can let your husband see the qualifications and such that midwives receive. I am in BC and used a midwife for my last birth and will again this time. I had/am having hospital births, and was very happy with the level of care I received. As was my husband.

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Kelina - posted on 06/09/2012

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well one of the cool things I just found out, my SIL is having twins! which she found out after deciding to go with a midwife. The thing is twins are considered high risk. The awesome thing is that the midwife will still be involved in their care, so they still get the same level of care that you get with a midwife but also the supervision of a OBGYN. Not all midwives will do this, but if you find out you're high risk halfway through your pregnancy I think most of them will. If you do decide to go with a midwife for the next one, it might be a question to ask. The other thing is that if you ARE considered a high risk pregnancy, your care will be transferred to a doctor. So your hubby doesn't have to worry about you insisting on staying with a midwife, which is EXACTLY what my hubby would be worried about because I'm as stubborn as a mule lol.

Rebecca - posted on 06/09/2012

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thanks so much for the link - I didn't even think of hopping on there.

The only things that I think will still make him nervous is the line that midwives are for healthy low-risk pregnancies - while I was never told I was high risk (one of the other things I HATED about having a doctor assisted labour - very little info was given after the fact) They kept hinting that I was not low risk...

Either way thanks though - there is some great info on there!

Kelina - posted on 06/09/2012

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what exactly is he worried about? Maybe meeting with a midwife so that he can ask questions might be a good idea. People can still have c-sections with midwives, still have drugs if they choose to, and midwives are trained to handle difficult deliveries and complications. For example after my last delivery, I bled copiously and ended up having to go in for surgery. I still had a midwife, what happened was the obstetrician on the floor got called in, took a look and made the decisions, then left. My midwife went into the operating room with me, but was unable to be there when I woke up. Where else are you going to get that same level of care? my midwife was with me from about 2 o'clock wednesday afternoon until 6 am the next morning when I went into surgery. She never left the room. and she made home visits after I left the hospital which was lucky because someone needed to come see baby every day for five days I believe and I was so not up for driving the hour round trip to go see the doctor or nurse. unlike many people think most midwives DO have hospital privileges. It's nice too because you can usually shop around for a midwife, can't really do that with doctors. Good luck!

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