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So I am very blessed to have a beautiful baby. Imagine my surprise when I was talking to my husband about maybe having another in a few years and he tells me flat out that he doesn't want any more. I understand why. He already has 2 children whom I love as if they were my own. But they are both much older. One will be moving out within a few years and the other doesn't live with us and we rarely see him. So our child will essentially be growing up a single child. When we were dating, I always said very clearly that I wanted 1 or 2 kids- preferably 2. He never argued about it. Before and after we had the baby, he said he would like to try for a specific gender in a few more years. Now though, he's putting his foot down. I get he has issues with the past. The mother of his first child became an addict after she gave birth and eventually passed. He's raised his son by himself all these years. And the second relationship he had ended almost immediately after she gave birth when she cheated and left him for a woman. So again, he doesn't have the best experience with marriage/newborns. He made me promise I wouldn't do as his exes had done after I had the baby and it took time for me to convince him we (and especially I) were different. I felt sure that after I had the baby and he saw how great of a mother I was and how he had nothing to fear, that he would be happy to have another baby in a few years. I'm kind of shocked now. I always envisioned myself having a large family and to be told I will only be allowed one biological child, well I'm not sure if this is something that I can accept. Anyone go through something similar?