Husband doesnt like CoM {:+)

Shannintipton - posted on 05/05/2011 ( 90 moms have responded )

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My husband is mad that I spend sooo much time on CoM. He is right, but the funny part is that I didnt do anything before. So really what is the difference. Except now I am happier. So I guess I will be backing off for a while . . or at least when he is home . . . . or only while he isnt sleeping . . . or only when he isnt watching. LOL Thanks for listening. {:+)

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Has he told you why he doesn't like you being on CoM? If it makes you happy and isn't interfering with your life, then what's the harm? You could tell him that instead of socializing with mums online, you could go out and socialize... say Saturdays?



I've backed way off CoM from my former usage. I also go through times where I take a break from it. But it's my decision and usually because of work or child commitments.



Jennifer's idea is a pretty good one too! I usually just minimize the screen, until I got the "screw you!" attitude and decided that I am entitled to come onto CoM when I have time since I take care of everything else first.

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My hubby doesn't like it either, but then I ask him if HE wants to hear about what I complain to others on here about. I also told him that sometimes I feel a real sense of purpose when I can help people and it makes me feel good. After that he backed off a bit, but I've also cut down on my time on here as well...

Merry - posted on 05/06/2011

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My husband matt is realistic in when and why he doesn't like me on COM, he hated it when I would honestly sit on the computer instead of doing any house work, but I was lazy and honestly needed the kick to get going. So that's reasonable. Otherwise he only says I shouldn't get on here so much because I'm always telling him about the debates or 'stupid people' that make me mad' he's like don't go on there if it just makes you upset! I say no I don't tell you about all the wonderful ladies and all the support and encouragement, I just vent to you about the crap!
So he understands that now. And since I'm not working anymore I've honestly stepped up with the house soooooooooo much he is absolutely thrilled at how clean and nice I'm keeping the house so he doesn't care at all that I spend time on here because obviously it's not affecting my other parts of life!
But he a,so loves that I'm learning so much on here, I've gotten so much info here and we are both glad that we now know alot more about how we want to parent because I'm getting alot of good debate and info here that we can then discuss and update our ideas about how we want to parent!

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Shannon, I think we all do a bit of that, at least I do.

Maybe he just needed to blow his stack a little to be able to see things clearly again. I know that feeling too.

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Stifler's - posted on 05/08/2011

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My husband hates the internet. I hate the tv. Often times we blame each others so called addiction for us not talking much hahaha.

Tracey - posted on 05/08/2011

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That sounds great thank you. Just let me know where and when and i'll be there... I will ask my 10 year old to think of a joke for me... ;-)

Shannintipton - posted on 05/08/2011

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Tracey, I just so happen to have a community for Disabled Moms with Children. I would love it if you would join my fairly currently inactive community. LOL Funny thing. I have no clue as to how to tell you to join. ha ha. If you are interested let me know, and I will find out how to join. You MUST bring a joke. Laughing is mandatory! LOL Please let me know. I am sorry to hear that about your tumor. Are they going to be doing/or have they done surgery? Please let me know about the community and Good luck. Talk with you soon? {:+)

Tracey - posted on 05/08/2011

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I have a friendship like you have with your friend, if any one cannot handle it, it is through jealousy.XXX

Tracey - posted on 05/08/2011

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I am also disabled, physical and mental. Doctors found a large, benign tumor in my left frontal lobe... BY ACCIDENT!!! Go figure...!?!?!?!? :-/

Shannintipton - posted on 05/08/2011

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Actually he is starting to show a sign of interest. He asked me to read him a post I posted. He does however ask that I dont post anything about HIS personal life (didnt say "our"). LOOP HOLE. LOL {:+)

Tracey - posted on 05/08/2011

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If being on board with CoM is helpful and supportive for you and wee ones, then what is his problem? It is always easier to talk with other mums because we see and feel things a lot differently than men... If this makes you happier and a calmer person then he should be happy for you not JEALOUS!!! Which what this is by the way.. lol
Take Care, be well and keep in touch with us all on CoM.

Tracey.c. ;-)

Shannintipton - posted on 05/08/2011

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Hi Keli,
His thing is rolling his eye whenever I am on CoM. But I will be cutting back a bit . . . for now. {:+) And thanks for the support. :)

Kelli - posted on 05/08/2011

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We ALL have our outlets! Would he rather you be out at the mall spending money? Hey WHATEVER works! Does he golf, spend a lot of time watching tv/movies? What's his thing? Yours is free which is a bonus! But if it makes him REALLY mad, pick your battles and know you always have the support of COM's!

Constance - posted on 05/06/2011

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She really hated me and I knew she sure as hell wasn't good enough for him.

Constance - posted on 05/06/2011

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I was well hated by is girlfriends. He belonged to me and no one else. The first serious girlfriend he had he made it clear that he would never get married or have any babies except if they were with me.

Constance - posted on 05/06/2011

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I was well hated by is girlfriends. He belonged to me and no one else. The first serious girlfriend he had he made it clear that he would never get married or have any babies except if they were with me.

Constance - posted on 05/06/2011

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Oh yeh we are very close. When we both younger if I neded him for anything he came no matter what or who he was doing.

Constance - posted on 05/06/2011

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In some ways he is the love of my life. Don't get me wrong I love my husband. But with Shawn it is something so different. We have always had very intense feelings for each other. But I we agreed long before I met my husband that our friendship was the most important to us. So we decided to only be friends.

Constance - posted on 05/06/2011

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We have been friends for 18 years. I love him to death. We are so close that when I had my 2 oldest kids he wa in the delivery room.

Constance - posted on 05/06/2011

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Right now I am doing it by myself he is a minimum of 14 hours away by car.

Constance - posted on 05/06/2011

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My sister loves him and she is very objective. She really does like my husband but now she is really starting to not like him so much.

Constance - posted on 05/06/2011

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My best friend which does happen o be male hates my husband with a passion.

Constance - posted on 05/06/2011

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I apprieciate you listening. I realy don't have a lot of people that I can talk freely with.

Constance - posted on 05/06/2011

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I don't want to do it on my own. I want my husband to be around withme and raising our child in the same house.

Constance - posted on 05/06/2011

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These issues have been going on for years. He can't move out the past and I don't know have much I can take

Constance - posted on 05/06/2011

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He thinks he can treat everrybody badly and then we will say it is ok when says he is sorry. But sorry only goes so far whenyou hear it so much.

Constance - posted on 05/06/2011

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Not offensive atall. We have been in a really bad place for a long time. I am to the point where I do want to make it work but at the same time I want to end it.

Constance - posted on 05/06/2011

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He is stressed at work and I understand that he is but I am not going to just sit around and wait for the phone to ring.

Constance - posted on 05/06/2011

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He just doesn't know how to shut up. He stops thinking before he opens his mouth.

Constance - posted on 05/06/2011

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Yeh he is always telling the kids not to stress me out too much because it increase my chances of having a massive seisure. But what does he do stresses me out.

Constance - posted on 05/06/2011

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I told him to chill out because I don't need the extra stress right now.

Constance - posted on 05/06/2011

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Hey Shannin, You know how I am when it comes to my husband. He gets jealous of anything or anyone that is getting my attention getting. I don't really care if he likes it or not

Shannintipton - posted on 05/06/2011

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I have now learned that when I am getting that LOOK. I just go use my computer in my room. If he cant see me than its not happening. LOL {:+)

Natalie - posted on 05/06/2011

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I guess I am lucky my fiance has always supported me on here because its my outlet to other moms, he would rather me talk and socialize on here so that I am not out spending money. He wants me to be happy and not get all depressed so he encourages this but he does want the chores done first :P

Shannintipton - posted on 05/06/2011

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Mark just rolles his eye but if something happen on CoM and I am upset he will listen . . . . and then roll his eyes. LOL {:+)



P.S. I am not allowed to post anything about him. Anything personal. shhhhh he may be checking up on me. so you didnt hear it from me. ok? {:+)

Bonnie - posted on 05/06/2011

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Haha my husband has come downstairs many times and rolled his eyes. So what's going on with Circle of Moms today?? He asks. There was actually a couple of times where he has read a couple of threads and told me his thoughts.

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Husband's not only hate to talk to us about poop, vomit, drool, teeth, laundry and periods...they also hate to hear us talk about talking about poop, vomit, drool, teeth, laundry AND periods.
My husband has this famous glazed over look whenever I start a conversation with "I know this is gross but...."

Shannintipton - posted on 05/05/2011

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Sal, I mention CoM, he starts to roll his eyes. . . But in all fairness whenever I speak he rolls his eyes. Just kidding. I think he was just having a moment. I think he will get over it and if not tuff for him. But he is a great guy. {:+)

Sal - posted on 05/05/2011

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and not having a real life grown up at home to talk about big girl things this is a god send somedays so CoM is good for my mind...and i don;t bother him with my need for incesent chit chat about stuff he couldn;t give a shit about....hmmm broccloi in the muffins = lying and deception , like he cares!!!

Sal - posted on 05/05/2011

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my hubby gets shitty too, i think they are just big spoilt kids who don;t like the competition, he'll get ovr it, not like i'm on a swingers site hooking up (but he might prefer that!!!! lol) but seriously i don;t think anything that takes quality time from my husband and i is good for our marriage seen as he works shift work we have 3 kids time alone is precious and i'd be pissed big time if he spent it on the net chatting about nappy rash and breast feeding..

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