Rowena - posted on 03/31/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )
Im in a major fix at the moment and really dont know what to do for the best.
I have just found out that I am pregnant with our 3rd child (literally only 1-2 weeks according to the pregnancy test). This pregnancy was not planned and I was on the pill so Im really not sure how it has happened.
My problem is that my huband doesnt want this child and basically thinks that I have got pregnant on purpose. We already have 2 children (age 7 and 3). I knew that he ddnt want more children as he had talked about having a vasectomy. I asked him not to have the procedure as I possibly wanted another one when we were in a better financial position. We have literally only just got married on the 8th March 2013 despite being together for 10 years, so this pregnancy is a result of our honeymoon. Im pretty sure that my husbands concerns are purely financial and practical and I totally understand where he is coming from as we only have a 3 bedroom house. I only found out I am pregnant yesterday and I told him straight away. Since then he has barely spoken 2 words to me apart from to tell me that Ive done it on purpose.
I honestly dont know what to do. I didnt plan on starting our married life like this and I dont want to force a new baby on my husband when its clearly not what he wants. On the other hand, the thought of having a termination is not something that I really want to do. I had one many years ago and found the whole ordeal so heart breaking. I dont think I could cope with it all again and I dont think I would be able to forget that I basically would have been forced into it.
Thanks in advance