Lisa - posted on 08/26/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )
My son is soon to be 18. Is living at grandparents house and doesn't want to see or talk to his father. His father thinks that by pushing my son down mentally, my son will try to prove him wrong. My son does have a problem with accountability, but my husband calls him cruel things like loser, saying he will never amount to anything and that he will waste his money when he flunks out of college. My husband has been verbally abusive to my kids it seems like forever. He can be a very loving parent and is very giving to people. He provides for his family and is under a lot of financial stress, but I can't justify his behavior. My son is supposed to start college soon but is refusing to have his father pay for it, and since he can't afford it, he won't go. He is most likely going to join the AF reserves, has a job starting in a few weeks and intends to get a second one. This is driving me crazy. I fought so hard to get him through high school (not academically motivated) and finally found his passion for the future, only to have it sabotaged. I don't know what to say to him to get him to change his mind.