Husband go out drinking a lot with his business friend.

Yaneth - posted on 08/04/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )




I've been married for 17 years, we have have 2 boys. My husband start working out of town a lot and then he started hanging out with his friends going to strip club and drinking pretty much every night. Is very hard for me to trust him again I discovered testing a stripper.... we went to marriage counselor and then we decide to move are family where his businesses. Now he doesn't hang out with those friends that much. My new problem is he started going out on business meeting whit the same clients 2 or 3 time a week sometimes even the weekend. They go out drinking and smoking, casino and sometimes strip clubs. He is being a business trip to Vegas, Costa Rica, Daytona. In Costa Rica he told me a different hotel name, he seys the hotel don't have phone in the room, I discover they have phone. Of course he have an answer for everything and he made me feel that I'm the one who's looking for problems, he said I'm overreacting, he said that he's not doing anything wrong. But the fights are getting worse. I feel like he's not telling me the true. 3 months ago, he told me he was in Key West and I found him in a hotel 20 from are house by himself, he said he was protecting a friend that's why he couldn't come home because then I was going to start asking questions. I know he was there by himself. He made the promise that he would never lie to me, and things are going to be different .Now we're fighting again. I get upset because he is using are savings to go out. I'm staying home mom, he provides everything for are family.I don't have complains about that. But he feels because he pays for everything is ok for him to do what he does. He tells me that he has to do whatever it takes to keep his business going. I am feeling miserable I don't like to see my husband come home at different hours, smelling alcohol and cigarettes on his clothes. I love my husband a lot, but I feel like I'm losing my dignity, he said he's not cheating on me, but is being too many lying that I don't know what to believe. I want to believe that he's telling me the true on that one. I need some help please. I'm 40 years old Spanish and everybody says that I look good. Just in case somebody is going to ask me if I am Fat. Please help me tell me if I'm overreacting, do I need to keep my mouth shut. Thank you!


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~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/05/2015




Well, then get a marriage counselor. It doesn't matter who finds it, just that both parties want to go and seek help.

Quite honestly, it sounds very obvious that he is cheating.

Do what you need to do to get a job. Get out of the house. Your own money. Sounds like you may need it.

Yaneth - posted on 08/05/2015




Yes. I am thinking to get a real estate license. I used to work in a cosmetic department store. Getting a real estate license will give the opportunity to work and meet people.
At the same time make some money, having a flexible schedule. My boy is still little 6 and 10 years old.
He did mention that he wants to go back to counseling, I'm the one who has to look for one I tell him to fine some one, he didn't bother. I need to make a decision what is the best for me and my kids.
Thanks. Shawnn it's been very helpful your comments.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/04/2015




Sounds like you either need more counseling, or to decide whether you really want to stay.
Have you thought about working outside the home, so that you have some other interests as well?
Personally, I wouldn't trust someone who couldn't be completely honest, and he's not, it sounds like, so my ultimatum in that situation would be counseling and complete transparency, or separation and divorce, complete with custody, support and visitation orders for the kids.

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