Husband goes to see childs mother at 10pm

Default - posted on 04/07/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Stressed out need to vent.
Please make this make sense. My husband and I have problems. If you haven't read my post about my medical condition you really need to before I start venting HEAVILY it is called "Husband requires dr.s note to stop sex" I really appreciate you alls support on that one.
I have a new problem to present. Now we found a counselor and decided were going to set up a date. Now today he is telling me that he has been seeing his childs mother. He told me he was over there because she cares for/ likes him and it felt good to receive some attention from her. He then went on to say that he would like to keep seeing her. He is tired of us. He wants love and care. Our relationship didn't start going south until we stopped having sex. I cant control the fact that I have a medical condition and he wont take hj, or bjs.
How is a relationship to be repaired when others are added into the mix. I have NEVER introduced a male into our relationship. Our problems will only become worse if other people are added. It sounds to me that he will likely end of sleeping with her because in what universe do men just go over womens houses to hug and hold them? I recognize we have problems. Why when we start seeking help does he add to them? Someone help me. I'm livid.

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Default - posted on 04/08/2015

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More Ranting sorry... I need to air out.
Funny thing is she isn't an ex. They never dated. One night whoop here comes my stepdaughter. He makes her out to be so.. trashy and yet he goes over there.
It is totally emotional cheating!!! I told him that. He did come home that night idk what time I had fallen asleep. So something I said got my point across that he shouldn't have been there. He swears by loving me and I believe him i do. He justs starves for attention, and I don't know how to help anymore. I derailed my personal agenda of graduating school, career for him. I kept snapping under the pressure of trying to please him and our daughter. I have nothing and he graduates very soon. Humiliating.

you ladies are right. I do see his selfishness... Their are other problems as well, but if we plan to make it this is not the way.. thank you for your support.

Raye - posted on 04/08/2015

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Your husband is emotionally cheating, even if he's not actually having sex with her. He's going to someone else to get the feelings he should be trying to get with you.

If he wants to save your relationship, he has to stop going to his ex for comfort. If he doesn't want to give up the ex, then you need to give him up and find someone you can be happy with instead of this guy that has kept you in misery for years.

Michelle - posted on 04/08/2015

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You need to make a decision, do you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you or are you going to put up with it?
He only cares about himself and doesn't care how he treats you. He's very selfish and probably won't change.
If I was you I would be kicking his ass to the kerb and telling him to go back to his ex and you will be seeing him in court.

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