Liliya - posted on 05/26/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )
My husband and I used to go dancing and clubbing together. He is significantly older then I am. Now we have a little baby. He continues going out at night - including dancing, while I am at home with the baby. He says it is not going to change. Sometimes baby is up most of the night crying, and I am there comforting, while he is all pretty dancing with someone else. It makes me very angry. He goes out almost every weekend. He says I am welcome to go out alone as well. But he also knows that I am not that kind of person that would enjoy that. I also know that in reality he would not enjoy it either - he separated with he ex because she was going out several times a week. In the past year i went out alone once - and it felt wrong - guys were hitting on me, and I can imagine exactly same thing happens when he goes out. The whole time I felt that i would rather be spending the time with my husband, then dancing with strange men who were obviously out there looking for a girlfriend. I also felt guilt towards my baby - thinking what am I doing here if not spending time with my baby or my husband. But my husband does not feel that guilt. He sees nothing wrong with him clubbing every weekend. I feel very bad and I don't know how to move forward. Any advice?