Husband going out and screening my phone calls

Mrsaubrey - posted on 11/30/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I am 21 weeks pregnant with our third child and we've been married eleven years. Drinking and going out with the guys has become a real problem. I always let him know where I'm going, who I'm with, what time I'll be home, and answer my phone when he calls. He doesn't tell me he's going out, just doesn't come home after work or errands. I call and he doesn't answer or if he does he says he'll be home soon, but he always takes a long time. He is very sociable and stops to talk to acquaintances for hours on little errands, when he bumps in to people. I feel like all I do is wait around for him, frustrated, hurt, and angry. Being pg makes me even more upset. He should want to share this time with us. It is such a bad example for our kids. I feel like a single parent. I work full time, but have fibromyalgia and may not be able to work much longer. We made a decision that if my pain gets worse that I will be a stay at home mom, but his behavior makes me too vulnerable. I feel so disrespected and can't take it anymore. But I love him, he can be great,the kids adore him, and having a baby by myself is terrifying. I don't know what to do. Please give me honest feedback.

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Mrsaubrey - posted on 11/30/2013

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I have literally told him about 100 times over the years. Last time was a week ago and he is out late tonight. I must not come across strong enough.

Madison - posted on 11/30/2013

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I know this is a no-brainer, but try and talk to him and tell him your feelings, just like you did hear. That's one mistake a lot of people make, they keep in all their feelings if something is wrong all the way until it's piled up into a dirt mount and blows over. It isn't worth it. Just set some boundaries for your self. (:

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