Husband had an affair with my "best friend" resulting in a child

Ashley - posted on 11/05/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My husband of 4 years had an affair with my supposed best friend for a year. I never saw it coming. We separated when I found out and the baby was born. We have since decided to throw our divorce away and are trying to fight for our marriage. We have a son together, I have a daughter from a previous relationship that he has been around since she was 6 months old. I also have an amazing bonus baby (step daughter) that I have been around since she was 18 months old. I realize the baby born out of the affair is innocent. But the mother of the child, supposed best friend, will not let my husband have the child. She says she doesn't feel comfortable with him having the baby. I have been friends with this woman for 10+ years, so I know she doesn't question his parenting abilities. She wants to be there when he has the baby. I don't know what to do...I feel like I am keeping my husband from his child, but I have boundaries. Help please!

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Jodi - posted on 11/05/2015

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Your husband needs to find a lawyer and file for custody/visitation. She has no right to withhold the child from him, and unless she has evidence that either of you are inappropriate role models for the child, or that your home is a danger to the child, then he has as much right to the child as he does.

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Jodi - posted on 11/05/2015

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Well, if they get the visitation orders right, he won't need to go to visit the child at her house - he has the right to have the child at your house. However, you shouldn't prevent your husband from seeing his child. If you still can't trust him to go to her house, then maybe you guys still need to do a bit of work on your marriage.

Ashley - posted on 11/05/2015

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That's what I figured is the best course of action. It's just a long process and I know he wants to be involved in the baby's life. Should I even allow him to go see the baby at her home without me? All of me says NO!, but I feel like I am keeping him from his son.

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