husband heavy crack and heroin user

Maryam - posted on 06/09/2013 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I don't know what to do anymore. My husband of not even a year has been a drug user since before we were married and secretly wjilst we were. Throughout my pregnancy I had no support from him at all emotionally or financially. I was naive and thought when my daughter was born he would change. Stupid me he didn't just got worse. I then moved back with my mum and since then I have been here for over three months. During this time my father was diagnosed with cancer and I decided to give my hubby another chance thinking this might change him. Sadly my father passed away and he was nowhere to be seen at the funeral. I just had enough and told him to fuk off forever but I feel so lonely. He has not contacted me and normally he would. I feel so depressed I wamt to do the best for my little girl but feel hopeless. Why do men do this? How can I not fall into depression? It seems lile this year is really bad for me.

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Maryam - posted on 06/09/2013

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I am a muslim living in the UK. But please do not confuse me for a cultural muslim. I know my religion disapproves of my husbands behaviour and as far as divorce goes I have spoken to a religious leader who has been very helpful and will try to talk to him to see if there is any future. I was only married through my religion so in that respect it is easier to divorce. My culture makes it taboo for a divorce but my religion thankfully allows it. In a way I am glad my dad is not here to see that my life is messed up it would have hurt him. I still miss him but I know that divorce is the only option. I just wish it didn't hurt so much.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/09/2013

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I am so sorry to hear about your father. But be a strong women. Understand that you will never change your husband, he needs to do it for himself. Please leave him. Please divorce him. Do not raise your child with a heroin/crack user. NOTHING good will ever come from this. Divorce him, and move on. I know, easier said than done.

Maryam - posted on 06/09/2013

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Intially before we married it was his past. I thought he was over it. Obviously not. I cannot see how men can walk away so easily from marriages and most importantly their flesh n blood.

Ev - posted on 06/09/2013

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Like Michelle said, you need some counseling and to be there for your child. Your husband should have been turned in for his drug usage. He needs help and if you knew he was a user why did you get married to him?

Michelle - posted on 06/09/2013

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Get yourself some help. Find a counselor and work through your feelings. You shouldn't go back to him for the sake of your child but you need to make sure you are there for your child at all costs.

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