Husband is bully and teaching stepson well!

Anita - posted on 12/18/2015 ( 6 moms have responded )

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We have been married just over 4 years. Last 3 years hubby has believed his son over his daughter and I at every turn. We have had fights about allof it. Last May he apologized then this year the whole thing starts again. I get calls from school because hubby wont answer phone yet when I do and tell him what stepson is doing, he calls me a liar. He calls me names in front of stepson, yellls, throws things and breaks things in front of HIM, even accusing me of ME being the only problem in sons life.

Josh has stolen items, bullied handicapped kids, his loyal friend whos Mom dying of cancer, girls by inappopriate touch and belittling. His Father is told and he yells at me in front of his son saying Joshs ONLY problem me, even breaking things in front of him and saying it is my fault for his actions because I MADE HIM MAD

I am leaving because I have stuck it out for last 4 years with hubby only growing meaner and more heartless! He tells me I am getting what I deserve because I am a piece of poop in his eyes. Tired of the abuse, wish he would have acted this way dating him but he hid it until after we got married. He even grounds me from intimacy with him, from driving by making me pay him to go 15 miles a whopping ten dollars when car uses maybe 3 dollars. refuses to correct son when he mouths off to me or anyone else BUT HIM, or if he doesnt do chores or he lies about anything..no punishment at all!

He tells me his son cant help his behavior and that he doesnt mouth off, I tell lies about that too with my hubby right there hearing it all!! I am leaving as soon as I find a place..SICK OF ALL OF IT... CONTROLLING< BLAMING AND HATEFUL!!!

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Sarah - posted on 12/20/2015

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Why are you even trying to discuss this with him? What more do you need resolved? pack your stuff and leave.

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Anita - posted on 12/19/2015

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His son gone tonight. I did get nerve to talk to him. He says, cant you Fing see when a man is pissed? Dont you kow when to drop it. I said, "We have not talked in three days and I need this resolved or I am doing what I NEED TO DO."
He says, "Or threats will only PISS ME OFF MORE, you stupid B! I do not have to deal with you , what do you hate me or something! Dont you know when a man has had enough and is going to change NOTHING! I will not change what I am doing, you even have Angi pissed at me!"

That is the kids Mom. I called and told her hubby has made no attempt to get their son any help at all. He keeps making excuses that he is too busy to bother. She is upset and willing to fight for custody IF he does nothing. His son even came crying and saying he does not have a room at is Moms and hubby said, "Fend for yourself, not my problem, not my house!"

He is all about saying and doing nothing. Example: I was gone for a few days and a friend came over to ask if he would rent our old house. He told them that they should know how I am and that I would not let him. Then Angi came over to get kids last summer, we had to go to attorney because she was not taking kids to ruitine stuff like Boyscouts and Church. He tells her well if you dont, you know how SHE IS and you better otherwise she will be pissed!! So he is a bully and has no backbone when others come and ask him, he uses me as his excuse because he doesn not say NO to others. I had an issue and asked for his help and support...he told me on my own. I am licensed Evangelist and when I go to minister and pray, he stays at home but he will charge me for going to help other people..now remember I am disabled so only get small check. Pretty sad huh! I have tried praying but the man refuses to even listen to the LORD! HE IS STUCK DOING THINGS HIS WAY

Michelle - posted on 12/19/2015

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I'm also glad you are getting out. You don't deserve to be treated like that at all and this idiot needs a lesson on how to treat people.

Anita - posted on 12/19/2015

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The Mom was so abused by him she started drinking. She left because he told her she could leave but not take kids. She did not fight for custody or see them until the last couple of years. She was gone out of their lives for 3 years until she got fired for drinking and got sober. She doesnt even believe he is as bad because he was verbally abusive but did not push her. He pushed me so hard I fell about 6 feet backwards into the couch and HE KNOWS I suffer with asthma, RA, Systemic Scleroderma. I am disabled so I guess he thinks I can not leave... HE HAS A BIG SURPRISE COMING!!! He says his worst fear is being alone but it is happening. His olest son doesnt come around and neither does Megan (the daughter) now that she moved out. Josh only has a few years and he wont be around either. I have asked him to go to counseling with me but he will not, says he doesnt have a problem, he talked to his MOTHER and she said so. She has no clue how he acts behind closed doors!!

Jodi - posted on 12/19/2015

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I'm glad you made a decision to leave - your husband is abusive. If you are struggling to find a place, there are shelters for abused women who can support you in your search for somewhere to go. You do NOT have to put up with this.

I would be very concerned about the children - where is their mother?

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