Mary - posted on 04/15/2013 ( 7 moms have responded )
I'm having a really hard time with my husband and I have no idea what to do. Usually I'm pretty good with problem solving but I feel like we are so stuck right now. And I'm starting to get to the point now where I think mean, things in my head about him, often. I feel like I want to stop trying, which scares me.
First off, he has alot of trust issues that we had worked through some in the beginning but they are starting to resurace. And the last thing on my mind is cheating or replacing him. I have a one year old and just opening my own business (which he is jealous of) the last thing on my mind is keeping up with someone new!
He constantly complains is unhappy, stressed, hates his jobs, thinks that all he does is look after kids when he is home, which is a great dad and very helpful, it is definelty not all on him. And as a wife I am VERY understanding. like let him take a 3 hour nap on a Saturday while we could be doing something together. He is NEVER happy and it is very draining. We are having some really tough financial issues right now. We are BROKE, and so behind, so I know there is alot of stress, but when I try to do a budget he won't stick with it. I feel like I am trying so hard and he's just whining the whole time. And then at the end of the day wants to have sex, which I am completely turned off because of his negativity. I want to go to counsellor but I know he won't. He has been married and divorced before and thinks if he goes to the counsellor that she will "brainwash' me. Maybe thats what he thinks happened in hos past relationship.
Things just feel so tense, and I know it's so bad right now. I don't want to make things worse, but my honest opinion is that he has this marriage ending in his mind and focuses on how bad it will be. I think he's scared of being too comfy in this marriage incase I pull the rug out from him, like in his last relationship.
Is anyone else going through similar things, I do not want a divorce, but I'm getting scared.