Megan - posted on 09/19/2013 ( 14 moms have responded )
I'll start from the beginning. We worked together, he was my boss, I wasn't looking to date anyone at the time, but with his charm I gave in. Quickly we we're inseperateable. We dated for a 1 yr and then I got pregnant. While we were dating we got drunk all the time, smoked weed and had sex almost everyday. All was fun. But I was raised a christian, and I knew better. So when I found out I was pregnant, I told him I want this to be serious and let's just get married. He said ok. So october 17 2012 we got married at the courthouse. Of course since being pregnant, I stopped drinking and smoking. And since having my son, I have contiuned not to smoke and only rarely drink. And I'm very happy with it. I have a lot more energy, I feel better and am always available for whatever with my kids. My husband is the opposite, he still wants to have fun. Drink smoke, whatever he wants when he wants. He is actually a little bit older than me, so of course after being married is when you really get to know someone. So I was really surprized that a man of his age, 41. Would only be thinking of himself. One time he got so drunk he beat me up. I left for a week and came back. Then a few months later, he got in my face and said he wanted to "beat my ass". So I left him again for a week. Of course he promises thing will change, but they never do. He says "I'm grown I can do what I want". I had an issue with him watching porn as well. Finally got him to stop doing that, everything is an arguement. He demeans me because I'm younger than him. When he gets upset he calls me a little girl. I'm so fed up with his attitude and the way he talks to me. He won't listen to reason. Everytime I try to have a conversation, he says he doesn't want to argue. Which I don't either, I want to be able to talk calmly to eachother and for him to really listen and care about my feelings. But he doesn't care. I'm trying so hard to get my marriage to work. But I feel like I'm the only one trying. I'm so depressed. He is so distant from me. Hardly communicates with me and is defensive with everything. I tell him that we are a team. And I'm not against him. But he does not listen...his biggest concern is his cigarettes and getting a buzz every weekend. While we have 2 babies.. someone help me!!