husband jealousy

Imelda - posted on 07/03/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Last night we have an argument about this, it started out when i ask him if i could say thank you to my sister boyfriend for greeting me via fb on my b-day. but he restricted me about it. I am just feed up with his whole thing. i feel like i am in cage.. socially.

Is it ok for my husband to not allow me to communicate to my sister boyfriend?

i even ask him if i could do this, because i am afraid of his reaction. with my sister ex boyfriend.. he never let me talk to him too or reply to messages he sent just saying how we are doing and about my sister. or say something back to the comments he said on the photos of my baby. i was only able to talk to him in person when we meet him, but even with that i am scared and anxious because of his reaction. this is his common line" your attractive to him, your gonna leave me and be with him, you have no bussiness with him, just leave them alone, he is a stranger"

he does not trust me with his sister husband. he always says that hes sister husband and i have attraction to each other, that i am attracted to him. he does not even go somewhere if his sister husband is around because of this. he is also this way with his dad. he does not even let me go dancing with my friends in a club just for a girl night out, because to him its a pick up place. girls go there for this reason. " but to me its not." to me it is just fun. he also thinks that my friends cheated with there husband which is not true... he is also jealous with my friends husband. whenever i had a conversation with them.. he put a spin on it. uggh... I didnot even reply to my friends husband photo comment about my baby because he doesn't want me talking to them.couple of times before he made a big deal about this....

Please help. is he right? and am i wrong? i just want to have a freedom..I am not saying i want to be with them intimately, i just want to be socially polite . i admit i am jealous too but, nothing like this. Thank you

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Imelda - posted on 07/03/2013

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@little miss, Thank you very much. i am truly trying to understand my husband. Just this afternoon he said that he is just very insecure and is afraid to lost me, because im this and im that. I have been asking him to trust for a long time now, even just a few percent of it, but he said he really struggle with it.. because he has been betrayed in his life couple of times, but to me since he sew that i am very different vs his past relationship, i was hoping hell trust me.

About my sister b.f i have only seen him via fb. but to me i should have a freedom to communicate with other guys as well that have a connection to my family and friends to just be even polite. I am thinking of observing him more..to see if he really will try to trust me. before heading to the marriage counselor... Thank you again...

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/03/2013

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This would honestly make me wonder if HE is cheating, and is controlling you to ensure you don't. He sounds also emotionally abusive, and really this needs to be addressed. He should not be so jealous that you cannot talk with a member of the family. You need to talk with him, and YOU do the talking....clearly he does so you need a chance to express yourself. I also recommend marriage counseling, and individual counseling for the both of you. If he refuses to get help to work on your relationship and trust, I personally don't thing I would stay in the relationship.

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