Joanne - posted on 05/16/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )
he left saying he doesnt love me and hasnt for 18 months, after i found out he had been having an affair with another woman for 3 months. he says he has no connection with me and nothing in commom, we've been together for 12 years and have 2 sons 7 and 3, what makes it worse is that the affair started when my mom was dying in hospital she had been ill at home for 3 months before that, we have had alot to deal with as he lost his dad last july and i lost my mom february i thought he was under stress at work nothing out of the normal in his job. he sees the kids regular and sits talking to me like were still together, also says he regrets the affair which he says is over now, and really why he needs to tell me that i dont know as he now lives alone so can do what he pleases, he texts me everyday and speaks to kids everyday on phone but always asks to speak with me everytime after, he says hes happy to be on his own, he still pays all the bills and keeps offering to help me with anything i need,hes had a different car and has told me i am still on the insurance and if i need to use it i can even though i have my own car?
i am so confused and obviously still love him, i thought when you seperated from someone you totally want nothing to do with them appart from the kids..