Teressa - posted on 06/18/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )
hi all, i am in pieces. I have been with my husband for 7 years and we have 3 children. Over the years his drinking has excessively increased. He was married before and his wife left him for the same reasons. Anyhow, 3 weeks ago i found messages on his phone from another woman who he alledges was a 1 night stand along with text messages, phone cals. Messages read how they loved making love to each other and i am devastated. for 2 days my husband looked devastated as he has never cheated before, he stated he was drunk and it should not have happened. 2 days later i can home from work to find that he had left. He has now managed to get a flat and he ignores all my phone calls/text messages stating that he needs time and space. I know the other woman is no longer part of the picture for sure! My husband looks at me as though i am the one that cheated. He calls me names, turns up drunk whilst driving giving me abuse, telling me its the chaotic busy house full of children that made him leave (the oldest is his step son) who has ADHD and he blames him as to the reason he will not come home. In 3 weeks i fly out of the country with my children on my own and have had to cancel his flight tickets. I fly out for a month.
I am truely devastated, i have tried for years to change his drinking and it just keeps getting worse and worse. He treats me as the enemy and he has cut me out of his life. I have done nothing wrong. I phone, begging pleading asking him to come home, get help for his alcohol addiction and state i will learn to trust him again. My self esteem is shot, i feel worthless and have lost a massive amount of weight. Him getting his own flat tells me there is no home but i am struggling to understand why he is not on his hands and knees begging me for forgiveness. I hardly function, i have had to have time off work and feel that there is no light at the end of the tunnel. I want him back but NOT as a drinker and i have told him so. How can he cut me out of his life as though i dont exist. He still sees the kids but will only pick them up from the child minders now. He says he never wants to set eyes on me again.