husband not accepting step children

User - posted on 09/08/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




Been married for almost a year now. I have 3 kids, 10, 5 and 2. Even though my Husband denies it I know he doesn't feel much for these kids. He said today that they weren't his blood and it really got to me. His family is the same way...always saying that he won't ever have kids of his own, etc. Its not that hes bad to my kids, he isn't. Its just that he doesn't LOVE them and its apparent. He'll play around with them to please me but its almost forced sometimes it seems. He has a nephew as well and treats him MUCH different compared to my own children. Such as, its fine for him to make a mess in the car but if my Son ever did what he is allowed to do all hell would break loose. I'm almost contemplating divorce over this. Is that wrong to even think about? My kids are my life. I do love my Husband but if it came down to it I will put my children first. I am deeply upset over this all. Any info?


Jodi - posted on 09/08/2012




I must admit, I wouldn't have married him in the first place, it sounds like you rushed into it. You know what they say, marry in haste, repent at leisure. Also probably one of the biggest reasons that second marriage divorces are at 60%......

However, what's done is done, and you can't undo it. I would suggest you guys discuss this situation, and if you can't, then maybe try some counselling. Even if the counselling doesn't help the marriage, it will at least be able to give you both the ability to make a decision one way or the other.


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Vicki - posted on 09/08/2012




I agree with you the kids do come first. What made you marry him to begin with?

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