Liz - posted on 10/24/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )
My husband and I have been married for almost 10 years. We have two boys -- a 7-month-old and 3-year-old. Our 3-year-old, in particular, has a very stubborn personality and is very disobedient. He respects my husband because he usually spanks him for disobedience but he doesn't listen or respect me because I usually threaten him with punishment but many times I'm so busy with my 3-month-old or doing house chores that I let him get away with it. When he is really bad, I put him in time out. My husband thinks I should give him a warning when he misbehaves and always spank him when he fails to listen -- strong enough to sting. I have spanked our son several times and he eventually listens but I later end up feeling guilty. That being said, my son's constant disobedience is really hurting our relationship, as my husband and I always end up arguing. He says I'm a great "babysitter" because I do a great job at keeping my kids clean, keeping the house clean, feeding them, etc., but he says I'm a failure as a mom. He works in law enforcement so he worries our child can become a criminal if I don't correct him now. I work from home 30 hr a week, so he does stay with the boys alone twice a week, cooks and cleans, while I I concentrate on work. He says he's frustrated and gives our relationship no more than a year if I continue the same way. I love my children dearly and only want the best for them. I don't know what to do anymore.