Marie - posted on 09/26/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )
Please forgive me if this is in the wrong place, I am new here. I just really need some advice. I am pregnant with our second child and I have been going through this emotional problem - husband texting a colleague. A little bit of background info: this person came along last year and this is when we started having problems. I didn't even know of her existence until this summer. The entire last year he was short, rude, always dissatisfied with how the family life is, etc. He yelled and cursed at me, which he never did before. Something was just changing, it was my intuition I guess that was telling me. So this summer we took a break and I headed to stay with my parents. It was then that I noticed he was getting texts from a weird number. I did my research and found out it belonged to a woman over a decade older than him, but she's single, no children, so has all the time in the world to take care of herself. The texts were then sporadic, and I saw some of them when he came to visit, they were just platonic. However, I am not fond of some colleague texting a personal cell #, what is this chick hoping for? She maybe knew I was gone, I don't know. So this month, it's been like several times a week! I have confronted him about her, he is very uncomfortable, but stated something like she's cool and he is going to choose who he talks to and who he doesn't, I can't control him. I've been looking at his phone, he found out about it. I don't have access to his emails, so maybe there's something going on too, I don't know for sure. I doubt they went really far yet, but the fact that this female keeps at my husband is not pleasing to me. She gives him compliments in her texts and from what I heard, she's very soothing, which I am not - because I am managing a household, not just going to yoga classes! I am in the very early stages of pregnancy. Something in his demeanor is different, I feel he's watching me closely too, spying on me, waking up super early to check my stuff as well (strange even on days he doesn't have work), etc. We just have this weird thing hanging in the air, lack of trust. He tells me to calm down. I can't. I am sorry for the ramble... I just got nobody to talk to and find myself crying a lot. I almost want to confront her and tell her to stop *** texting my husband! I'd rather know of any kind of infidelity so I can move on. I am not the type to latch on to someone because I don't have anywhere to go. Please help with sound advice, no judging please.