Amy - posted on 07/19/2011 ( 35 moms have responded )
I am having issues with my husband and text messages also. He thinks it is ok to text other women because it is all innocent. But a few of them send pictures. He says they are not "bad" pictures. Also, just recently he was texting a girl for a friend so his wife would not find out. Now, my husband is the one communicating with her and not his friend. He stated that he has known her for a long time. I checked his phone the other day and saw that they have never met physically and she finds it awesome how close they are! She is seeing someone right now but is not serious. Well, also on my husbands phone i saw where he wants to meet her before they (girl and her boyfriend) get serious. He offered to pay for her gas. He wants to meet about 2 hours away from where we live and they can dance and drink and no one will bother them! I was totally shocked when I saw this. Still have not said anything to him. He PROMISED me she was just a friend. That is not all!! Yesterday he accidentally left his phone at work (we work together at the local sheriffs office). I had to go thru it! I had recently requested her to be my friend on facebook. She had told him in a text message that she was going to approve my request because she has nothing to hide. My husband then tells her that I only did it to see if he was flirting or not and that he wouldn't do it there! Then says that I wont be a b$(%ch about anything but if I was he would get rid of my a$$. This really hurt!
He has no clue that I know any of this. I was smart and forwarded the messages to my phone and sent them to my email so I have proof. What do I do!??? I love him with all my heart and forgive him. But I am tired of hurting! If I confront him about it he always tries to make it my fault or will bring up something I didn't do perfectly. Augh!!!! Help me please........