Nadine - posted on 12/01/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )
Hi, okay so I am in a position where I want to leave my husband for a few reasons, no he did not cheat and he is a good father, he loves his kids but the problem is with him and I and how he thinks and acts (coercive sexual abuse) I am so embarrassed to put that up but im just filling you in.
so I have asked for a divorce and he wont let me take my kids, he says he loves me and does not want me to go, but how do I stay in a place that I feel lonely and unheard .... he says I must think of our kids and how I will hurt them if I leave.
He said he will change but iv given him two years to change and well he just does not listen...I am so tired of speaking and not being heard, he just doesn't understand, he is a nice person but everything is sexual with him and I cant take it anymore. I am tired, i work full time to, i come home, i clean, sort kids and the last think on my mind it that....
I have finally built up courage to tell him we need to see counselor because i am tired of him using the kids against me, he makes me feel so bad as if I dont care about my babies, I LOVE THEM SO MUCH I am willing to just stay in this marriage so they think we happy. but i know if I stay I will crumble with pain inside, he is obsessed with me and it hate it, even if I go to the shop he wants me to phone him to let him know im there, and how long I will be and so on. yes he is very insecure due to his past relationship and I get that but come on, we have been together for 10 years and I have not once given him any reason to not trust me where he has given me two reasons. so my question is, do I go see a Councillor with him or just leave it and go straight for a divorce or just suck it up and be unhappy till my kids move out?
feel so lost and sick of the manipulation.