Mazy - posted on 09/20/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
We have three children, 3 yo, 21 month old, and a 5 week old. We are stupidly fertile! The last one was an unwanted surprise, but we are so happy to have her now...only, we REALLY don't want any more this time. However, we currently don't have a form of birth control. Number 3 was conceived while using a condom, so I don't count that as birth control anymore.
So anyway...almost since the day my daughter was born, my husband has been hounding me to have sex! I had SPD, so sex was painful & didn't happen often in the last couple of months of pregnancy. Now I'm afraid of any pelvic pain, getting pregnant again, plus I just don't WANT to have sex right now. I've tried telling him that I'm pestered, climbed on, nursing, holding, caring for three kids all day every day, and I never have 10 mins to myself, so a romp in the sheets at the end of the day just doesn't light my fire. And there isn't any foreplay of any kind; he just wants me to lay back & spread my legs. He's making me mad because he just wont stop pestering me for it! He's starting to sound like an annoying high school boyfriend! If I say "I love you" he claims that I don't & we end up in an argument....which makes me want to have sex even less.
Is there a way to get my libido back or at least a way I can approach the conversation so he'll understand "not right now"?