I adopted my grandchildren, my son still wants to be their father - HELP!

Nancy - posted on 04/21/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )




My husband and I, after almost 2 years, adopted our grandchildren. Parental rights were terminated. Bio mom has had no contact since the adoption. The problem is my son, their paternal father. He still thinks of them as his children. He's been incarcerated for the past 3 years, the children are now 3 & 51/2. The little one obviously has no memory of him, know us as Mom and Dad. The older one remembers his father, although he does refer to us as Mom and Dad. My son will be released in 2 years and IF he becomes an asset to society I would like to welcome him back into the family. How? How do I handle this when he still thinks he's the father? I'm so confused and need some advice.


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Sarah - posted on 04/21/2015




Well he will always be their bio father. He is always going to see himself as that. What you will need to do is set up boundaries to your relationship to him and the kids to him. My advise is to talk to a social worker that deals with adoption. Being that he is their father and your son there are going to be situations that come up that will need to be handled correctly for the best interest of the kids. You may not be able to be as close relationship wise to your son as it may not be healthy for the kids.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/21/2015




Surely he got notification of his termination of rights going through. You'd have to check with a family lawyer in your area to see if you need to take further steps, or if he should be able to petition visitation.

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