I am 20 y.o. I'm the guardian of my 17 y.o. sister

Destiney - posted on 04/14/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I am 20 years old on December 13,2012 I got guardianship over my sister who is 17 years old. Her dad was fed up with her and just signed his rights away to me, my sister was happy , she wanted to live with me. I get a social security check for my sister because out mother passed away in a car wreck. Now it's April 2014 and my sister is so rude and ungrateful I tried to take her phone last month because she had a 15% in geometry and tried to tell me she was trying and her teacher had called me saying Breannda refuses to do work on the bored and wasn't turning in homework . So when I true to take her phone she said you don't pay for it you can't take it (meaning the money comes out of her s.s. Check) and then ran away and called the police on me !! The officer made her giver the phone but she kept coming in my room till 4/5 in the am and I had to be at work at 6 well I ended up giving her phone back so she would leave me alone so I could sleep a little and her phone was going to be shit off the next day untillll she had her gma pay it I was so angry but I couldn't do anything !! And I had to withdrawal her from school she missed so many days she won't get her credits and I let her go to Kentucky for spring break and she has been posting videos of her fighting people and post like "shots , shots , shots" then she deleted me from fb so I wouldn't see it ugh I'm so fed up idk what to do now !!! ADVICE PLEASE !!

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Whitney - posted on 04/15/2014

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Just because ss pays the phone doesn't mean you don't pay for the roof over her head and the food in her stomach. On top of that ss is giving the money to you to take care of her which means you can spend it the way you see fit and it's in your name not hers so it's your money not hers. They are paying YOU to take care of her not her for being her.

Whitney - posted on 04/15/2014

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I'm only 27 so I can't give a whole lot of advice but I can say I'm sorry about what you're going through. The only suggestion I have is don't give in. Once she figures out how to get away with something she will keep doing the same thing every time till she gets what she wants. I would honestly blow a head gasket on the grandma and tell her she needs to respect how you discipline her. Who cares if the phone is paid take it and throw in a bucket of water. Then she won't have one to use at all. I know it must be hard loosing a loved one like that and I'm sorry for your loss. As far as the fb thing take away all possibilities of internet connection. Put locks on computers, phones, etc. Sit down with her and help her with her homework. Actually physically sit down with her and make sure she gets it done and that she understands it. Teach her good study rabbits while you can. She may not know how to ask for help. I know I was that way. Call her school and see what homework she should have for the night and make sure she gets it done. Be involved more than just putting food on the table. Raising children is not easy. Let her know that you're there to help not just yell at her. I only hope the best for you and your sister.

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