I am 22... and currently feeling weird

Kassidy - posted on 07/15/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )




I had my baby girl 6 weeks ago.. almost 7! This is the first time I have left her all day with grandma because I decided to come back to work so it's not so hard on my fiance. Anyways, between long days.. and nights.. I find myself happy the weekend is here. Am I bad mother for wanting to have a beer or a mimosa on the weekend after a long stressful week with parenting and bickering between me and the fiance? Am I wrong to want to go out for a couple hours on a date or something with him and have a drink and some nice lunch or dinner? Something in me tells me "mothers shouldnt do that, it's time to grow up" but the other part of me says "youre still young and have great grandparents for her and a couple hours away wont do harm"

I am just feeling caught in the middle


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Jodi - posted on 07/15/2016




I'd be concerned about this "bickering" with your partner. How are you addressing that? But the date nights are a really good idea and may help you to iron those issues out and become closer in your relationship.

Andrea - posted on 07/15/2016




No you are not wrong for feeling like that. A few hours to yourself or with your fiance would actually be good for you. Even though you have a child now you still have to take care of your relationship with your fiance. I have 3 kids ages 8, 6 and 10 months and am currently pregnant. It is hard for me and my husband to find time together but we try to have a date night once or twice a month, the rest of the time we make sure to sit down and talk to each other, even though that usually doesnt happen till the kids are in the bed. Anytime together is good for your relationship. It's also good for her to develop her relationship with her grandparents. Spending a few hours to myself or with my husband actually made my relationship with my kids better because it allowed me to relax and not be so stressed out. I don't know about anyone else, but my kids can be a handful sometimes lol. It's ok to let yourself off the hook and have a little adult fun once in a while. Hope this helped.

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