i am 33 year old and trying for a baby since last year (dec) and till now i am still not pregnant yet, what is wrong with me? can someone tell me when is the best time to conceive? me and my husband working in different city, so we only got to see each other once a week, does this matter as well?

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Christy - posted on 09/01/2011

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Most fertility specialists won't see you until you have been trying for at least 12 months. In case not, call around. My neighbor went after trying a yr and ended up on progesterone, and got pregnant right away. Not saying it's the same for everyone but it's worth looking into one to determine when/if you can get pregnant.

Tara - posted on 08/31/2011

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Talk to your OBGYN for sure, get your hormone levels checked, all that stuff that's associated with trying.

That said, honestly the best thing you can do is try not to stress about it. Quite often as soon as you stop stressing about it your body say "we're good to go".

I know several women who tried for a year or two, had all the testing done, nothing showed up as wrong - then they decided not to stress over it and give it the "if it happens, it happens" thought and wham, they were pregnant.

Same happens in a lot of cases where women adopt. As soon as they aren't stressed about it they conceive naturally.

Here's hoping that for you it's just a bit of stress and you won't need any intervention/fertility treatments - good luck to you :)

Katherine - posted on 08/31/2011

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You may have to put on a fertility drug known as Clomid. Otherwise I suggest you talk to your OBGYN.

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Danielle Elizabeth - posted on 05/10/2013

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Oh and hunny there is nothing wrong with you! Women put so much pressure on themselves when it comes to being able to bear children , and see themselves as " defective" if they have trouble or can not concieved at all, but there is more to a woman than her reproductive system

Danielle Elizabeth - posted on 05/10/2013

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Try and relax , I know that's easy to say but hard to do when all you want is to be a mommy. You haven't been trying that long especially since you and your husband can not always be together when the right time comes along. I've heard so many stories of couples who tried for kids and just when they thought it wouldn't happen and took the pressure off than presto magic a baby appeared! I would talk to your OBGYN just in case you might need a little extra help , and try to make sure your not taking the fun out of being intimate with your husband and only viewing it as time to try and procreate . Make sure your eating habits are healthy and your body is getting enough vitamins and stay well hydrated and try to eliminate as much stress as possible in your daily life. My step sister tried having a baby for ten years and had a miscarriage but 2 years ago when she had just about given up got a beautiful baby girl. I know your having a hard time, but if you think positive one day if it's meant to be you will appreciate your child maybe just that much more than a woman who concieved easily and will make you that much better of a mommy. I will pray for you and I really wish you the beat of luck

Ruth - posted on 05/10/2013

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I don't know what to say at this point caz we've been together so long. So. I think I mite have to take the first
Step and say "No More"

Ruth - posted on 05/10/2013

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I'm basically giving up. I've asked him numerous times to to c a doctor. But u know

Tara - posted on 09/01/2011

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The reason I suggested it may be stress is that my husband and I started actively trying when I was 33 - nothing was working, so I just resigned myself to the possibility that I had left it too late and wouldn't be able to conceive without intervention.

We decided that if we couldn't conceive without intervention we would just go back on birth control. I was on the pill and taking antibiotics for bronchitis and not stressing about things and WHAM I was pregnant.

My 2nd daughter also wound up being a pill baby because we didn't think we had a chance at a second child.

Once I stopped stressing, my body did it on its own, despite preventions being taken.

(I had my first daughter just before I turned 36 and my 2nd daughter just after I turned 37, so they were both later-life babies.)

I wish you luck in your journey to have children and will send a prayer out for you :)

Shuilen - posted on 09/01/2011

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tara, to be honest, i think i'm over stressed. everytime when me & my husband make love, all inside my mind is to get pregnant, i can't bear to see my friends and other womens to get pregnant, and i'm so jealous to see them,



some of my friends even told me to be more relax and let it happen naturally. i heard those stories u mentioned as well but my biological clock is ticking fast.



all i hope is God will listen to my prayer and thanks tara for your advice.

Shuilen - posted on 09/01/2011

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thanks katherine, i'm thinking to get one as well maybe another few months time.

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