I am 35 yrs old, 7 weeks Pregnant, & my other child is 17!!!!

Casey - posted on 12/18/2012 ( no moms have responded yet )

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Where do I begin? I am new to this and I just recently found out that I am 7 weeks pregnant. My son is 17 years old, and this will be my 2nd child. I didn’t even think I could get pregnant, and here I am 35 years old, pregnant, overweight (5'6/240lbs), and worried like crazy that I could have harmed my baby before I found out I was pregnant! I saw a Diet Dr and started taking prescription diet pills (Adipex & Didrex) a while back, probably 6-7 months ago. He also prescribed me Maxzide 70/50, some magnesium, and some other herb-type OTC meds. I also take those gummy vitamins and gummy vitamin C also, and I take those generic Advil liquid-gels if I have a headache or backache, or whatever pains I can't deal with. I occasionally have a top-shelf margarita or 2 maybe once every 2 weeks or so. As soon as I found out I was pregnant (Last Monday, December 10th, 2012) I quit taking ALL of those meds except for the gummy vitamins, and I haven't had anything to drink, and will not until after I have the baby and after I am done breastfeeding (If I can breastfeed) I am posting all of this because I am so worried that I may have caused some harm to my baby! I went to my OB Doctor's office yesterday to get a confirmation that I am indeed truly pregnant, and I am. The US tech also did a Vag US and it shows that I am carrying the baby in my uterus, thank you Jesus! I also have some other health issues. I had an abortion when I was 14, then I had my son, and since I gave birth to my son, I have had 3 miscarriages, and I also had a tubal pregnancy back in April 2009 that ended up rupturing the tube, and I had to have that tube removed while I was already under anesthesia to have my gallbladder removed. I knew that I had been pregnant, and it was in my tube, the Doctor had just given me medicine to abort the baby since it was in my tube, and not rupture my tube. I couldn’t have the gallbladder surgery until my "values" were down to zero. I am assuming the HCG values? Still not sure about which values had to be back to zero, but any who, they drew my blood every week until they got down to close to zero, and I guess they assumed that it was "close-enough" to zero to go ahead and remove my gallbladder. Thank GOD my sister and I had been had that convo about did I still want to have children, because, when I went back for the gallbladder surgery, the surgeon went in, he saw that I had lots of blood free-flowing in my abdomen, and I had to have the OB that was on-call to remove my right fallopian tube. He wanted to do a total hysterectomy, and my sister had to make the decision, because I was already "on-the-table", and could not make that decision for myself. My sister contemplated and the Dr told her I could die if she couldn’t make this decision (which I am sure he would have just done a total hysterectomy if she didn’t give him the okay)! She was so worried that she would make the wrong decision, however, she asked the Dr. if he could just remove that fallopian tube, and he said yes! Now why that information wasn’t given to her 1st, I do not know, but I had no idea of any of this until I "came-to" in the recovery room and my sister came in to see me crying. She told me all of this, and took a minute for me to realize what happened, and then it took a little while to calm her down and let her know that she made the same decision that I would have. Bless her heart! Now, in practically telling you my flipping life history, I am so worried that something may be wrong with my little bundle. I have this sick sense that I will have another miscarriage, or the baby has some abnormality. On top of all of this, my daddy passed away earlier this year, along with my grandmother (his mother) less than 2 months later. I am also having to deal with my boyfriend (a deputy at the sheriff's office) of 11 years (yes, we are not married) not my choice! I have wanted to be married for years! And he wants me to give him some space so he can "Soak it all in". Oh, yeah, I forgot to let ya know that he has practically been living with me for 6-7 of the last 11 years, and until recently when his mother’s house caught on fire, he would only bring clothes over on a daily basis, now since the fire, he does have more over here, which I have no problem with, the real reason I am with him is of course, I love him, and its comfortable, and he financially helps out. I have a whole lot on my plate, not counting my sisters live in different cities than my mom and I do (our hometown), and my mom has 27-28 rental properties that I am helping her out on the side with, and she cannot do any of the hard-labor work, and about the only thing I can do is clean, paint, and mow yards, which I forgot to mention that I have been painting for the last month or so, with stripping old paint off and painting back over, of course I used a clean air thing-y over my nose, and goggles onm my eyes, and when I found out I was preggo, I quit that too, but haven’t let anyone know about me being preggo except my boyfriend, and my 2 bosses. I just don’t want to hear "I'm sorry for your loss" if I was to miscarry again. Oh, I also forgot to mention that my main job (Mon-Fri job) the work that I do is on a contract, and we have been told that some people will be let go in Jan. 2013. I love my job, and the people I work with! I am honestly not stressing about anything that isn’t pertaining to my child, because I know God has a path for me, and everything happens for a reason! I do worry about my relationship with my boyfriend though! I have a lot going on, not counting these headaches I am getting every day, and my fingers swelling so bad since I cannot take the maxzide anymore. I am drinking lots and lots more water than I usually do about 6 Nestle water bottles I am up to now. I have taken Tylenol and it’s not helping. What is so bad is that my BP yesterday at Dr's office was 134/86, and I can tell you, that is high for me. I know that might not seem high, but mine usually runs 116/68, or even lower, and I feel like crap, these headaches are a dull pain behind my eyes, sometimes stabbing. I was thinking I may need to reduce my sodium intake, which I have started to today, but I am sure it will take a while if my headaches are even caused from that. Oh, yea, I just received a call from the insurance lady at my OB office, and guess what? Apparently my insurance will not pay until I have paid $5000! Some more crap, and I she asked me if I could get on Medicaid, and I know dang well that I make too much to get on Medicaid, which I wouldn’t want to be on it if I can help it! I just got done letting my boyfriend know and maybe he can add me on his, and maybe they will cover me even though I will have a pre-existing condition. My fingers are crossed that I can. And of course he is somewhat ticked off about it, which upsets me. I am about to cry, but I hope I can hold it together. This mess is just that; mess! I am trying to be so positive, and it just seems like I get every curve ball thrown at me! He doesn’t seem supportive anymore. He says if I start throwing out demands then he is gone, I am just so ticked off! It’s like he is mad at me for getting pregnant! We haven’t used protection in 8-9 years, and there was a time that we were trying to get pregnant, and its like he has forgotten that! It’s like he didn’t believe me when I took the home pt, and now that I got it confirmed at the Dr’s office he seems mad at the world, and he text me yesterday that he is just unhappy with what is going on right now. I just wish he would be happy and supportive, instead of trying to argue! I have no time or patience for this! I am so close to kicking him out, it isnt funny! But then I would be in debt like crazy! Danged if I do, danged if I dont! Believe it or not, I am positive! I just want to do the right thing, and a part of me is so angry with his actions right now that I just want to be alone! But then tomorrow I may be like, I wish he was still here, so I am having lots of issues as you can tell, and I just need some caring advice!

Love always,
Casey

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