i am 39 years old and am thinking about having another baby, am i too old...

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Sarah - posted on 08/09/2013

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Sometimes it is just taking that step and enjoying what comes from it. There are things that will change. You will be going back to the days of strollers, diaper bags, car seats, naps, etc. And you do loose the freedom of having that "your" time as you don't get much of that with a newborn, infant, or toddler. BUT it can also be the most fun and best experience. You realize how fast they really do grow and look at life differently when you have two that are older. You enjoy those little moments more and don't stress so much with the little things. In some ways it is like having your first with the knowledge of this being the third. You also have helpers and not just little helpers that can go get you a diaper.....you have built in babysitters and cookers when you need the help. When my third was born my older two were 13 yrs and 10 yrs. We still want to have another and by then the older will probably be close to 18 yrs old. My older two now love and adore their little sister. She is now 2 yrs old and they still fight over who gets her. They love to teach her things and watch her learn. (she just recently learned how to lip sing to music.....that is SO funny to watch!). I have truly LOVED this time with my third, BUT it has been an adjustment.....Before her birth I enjoyed walking (did some 1/2 and full marathons), I can't put in that time right now. I have recently just been able to get into doing about 3 miles a day, but I also realize that it is going to take time. I will get that back just not overnight.

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Elaine - posted on 08/10/2013

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thanks sarah and Rachael, its great to have someone to talk to, and sarah your youngest was 10years when you had your third, my youngest girl is 11 years now so they are similar ages. I am used to my freedom " my time" which I think is going to be the hardest thing to adjust to when a newborn comes along, I am always on the go and have lots of energy most of the time and I work as a care assistant in a nursing home so my job is another concern to me., but my 11 year old loves babies and toddlers as she is great with my friends children who are aged 2 years and 7 months old and she always used to ask me through the years that she would love another brother or sister. I have spoke to her about having another baby and she was delighted but she also was a bit put off by the fact that she would not be daddy's little girl anymore, but ive told her nothing like that will ever happen we will always feel the same way about her. well its great to hear you saying sarah that it has been great fun and a great experience although I know what you mean about it been an adjustment that's probably what im nervous about its all the changes that come with having a newborn in the house again, im used to coming and going when ever I want to as well, but its been really helpful and encouraging to read sarah that you have loved your time with your third hopefully if I do go ahead with having another child I might be saying the same thing in time as well

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not unless you feel you are. some 39 year olds are too tired or whatever to feel up to it while others still have lots of energy. it's more about how you feel about it then anyone else. if you think you can handle it then go for it

Elaine - posted on 08/09/2013

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well I think im nervous as well cause my youngest daughter is 11 years and my oldest daughter is 19 years old, and I feel if I don't go ahead with having another baby I will regret it in years to come. im all confused at the moment and nervous of starting all over again. I don't know whats wrong with me, its a big step to take as my girls are at a good age now but I know that I would regret it as I would love another child.

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