I am 6 months pregnant with my ex boyfriend. He is now my ex because he got drunk and pushed me and told me he did not have to be with me if he didn't want to. So i'm not dealing with him, but now he wont leave me alone. He has a drinking problem and i told him i want nothing to do with him and he needs to fix his drinking/temper problem. Its only been 3 weeks and he thinks his problem is fixed because he has't had a drink in a week. He hasn't paid anything for our child and I dont plan on putting his name on the birth certificate and i want to move back home to texas. I'm wondering if i cant just go or do i have to go to court. I want nothing to do with him and i dont want him having any say and i dont want that kind of person around my son.

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Lacye - posted on 09/21/2012

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Where are you from. Tashambreia is right that in some states he has no rights until a court order is made but in some if he takes a paternity test, he automatically has rights. I would move now before the baby gets here. He can't tell you what to do as of right now. But it will get complicated when the baby gets here. He can take you to court then and have it to where you can't move out of the state.

Tashambreia - posted on 09/21/2012

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FIRST I know it will be hard exspecially since your pregnant with his child, But NEVER IS IT RIGHT THAT HE PUTS HIS HANDS ON YOU. I had this problem myself and believe me it doesnt end.. The temper/Drinking goes way deeper than having anything to do with you he needs help. Now not putting him on the birth certificate i wouldnt reccomend, because its much easier when wonting to put him on childsupport ect later on.. Now they made it where you wont get insurance like medicade if you dont help with putting the male on childsupport.. The goverment dont like men making kids and not helping rasing them!! And no you dont need a court order to leave.. Legally he has no rights with the child with out a court order that gives him his rights.. You can leave.

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Lacye - posted on 09/22/2012

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If he pushes for a paternity test after the baby is born, the court will put his name on the birth certificate. It is his right as the child's father.

Cassie - posted on 09/22/2012

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ok well i'll have to try to get transferred back to texas before the baby is born.... and what if i dont put his name on the birth certificate?

Lacye - posted on 09/22/2012

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That's the thing, he has a right to be in the child's life since he is the father. Any court system is at least going to give him a chance to be a father to that child. It is extremely hard to actually get sole custody. However, like I said before, if you move before you are pregnant there is nothing he can do about it. If you have the baby in Texas, then that state will have jurisdiction and in order to set up visitation he will have to travel there for court dates.

Cassie - posted on 09/21/2012

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I am living in virginia right now, but i want to move back home to texas. I'm completely by myself here and i'm scared that he'll just show up at my work or home whenever he wants. I told him i dont want to be around him and that he has a lot of work to do on himself. He constantly calls/texts/emails me. He keeps telling me about how hes stopped drinking and blah blah blah,,,, i just ignore him.. i just dont know my legal rights and how i can completely have sole custody i dont even care about his child support check.

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