i am 8 months pragent and i have a 5 year old that has been getting mouthy and peeing in her pants what can i do to help her
Ariana - posted on 10/20/2012
If your daughter is fighting with you or arguing you need to shut it down right away. So tell her you do not talk allow people to talk to you like that, or end of discussion. Then either walk away or send her to her room until she is ready to speak to you respectfully. You can even make it so when she comes out she needs to tell you how she could have said something without being rude.
For peeing her pants I would first take her to the doctor to rule out any physical symptoms (just in case) and then I would just not make a big deal of it. Peeing is something you cannot control so you should just make her the one in charge of dealing with it. If she pees her pants she can get undressed, throw the pants in the sink to soak, or the washer, and wipe herself off and get dressed again. She's old enough to take care of it herself. If she doesn't do anything then she'll be in peed pants. If she's doing it on purpose then you're taking away the control issue. If she's not doing it on purpose you are still teaching her how to deal with it if it happens. Don't make it into a big deal or get mad at her when she does it, just be very matter-of-fact about the whole thing.
Try to give her things she can control, so choices she can make (limited choices of course). She may be feeling very stressed and misplaced due to a new child about to be in the picture. Emphasize how you love her and she's going to be a big sister and all the great things she gets from being older. Even give her a little job she can do for the baby (if she is interested of course).
Especially once the baby is born make sure you put aside some time to spend with her, even if it's only 20 minutes of 'special time' a day, so that she won't feel totally misplaced. Also emphasize how great a big sister she is and have her help if she wants. Give her a job of showing the baby toys or something.
The main thing is to try to reduce the negative attention she is getting and up the positive reinforcement. Try to find ways to notice her doing helpful nice things.
Carri - posted on 10/20/2012
She is still little. peeing in her pants she may have a problem. may be with your fighting with her. be patient the child is still little. maybe take her to the doctor and find out why she is peeing her pants. she may be developmentally behind.
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