I am a little alarmed. What does my 4 yr old know about sexy?

Shannintipton - posted on 04/26/2011 ( 22 moms have responded )

36,025

50

681

My 4 year old just now asked if she could put on her bathing suit so she could look sexy for the boys. Please help and what does it mean?

MOST HELPFUL POSTS

Kate CP - posted on 04/26/2011

8,942

36

758

Should could have heard it on TV, in a song, from a friend's mom or older sibling at preschool...who knows? I would explain to her that being sexy isn't something she needs or wants to be right now. That means she can't go out and have fun if she's too busy worrying about being "sexy".

I would also tell the preschool about this and see if any of the other kids are acting strangely. This could be a sign that something is wrong with another child.

Maryann - posted on 04/27/2011

12

13

0

Don't be sorry Shannin, Just opinions being discussed. We are all entitled to our own. Everyone has made very good points. Take what you need and leave the rest. I am 55 almost 56. And yes, old fashioned. I still welcome differing opinions. I would love to revisit this conversation when your children are 12.5. That is the age where the proof lies!

September - posted on 04/27/2011

5,233

15

695

Well gosh maybe I don’t watch that show often enough. I don't see anything wrong with the attire or the talk when it comes to that specific show, but clearly our opinions differ. Our son is 2.5 and not interested in watching a dancing show, he'd much rather read a book BUT if he was 4 and wanted to watch Dancing with the Stars I would not mind, it's just a dance show. In fact our son loves music and loves to dance; I embrace his love for both. Our son is blessed and I'm even more blessed to have such an amazing child.

Maryann - posted on 04/27/2011

12

13

0

Yeah, Dancing with the stars is not something that you want to have a 4 year old watching. I am a grandma and would never watch it with my grand daughters, 12,10,6,&4.
I have stopped watching myself. I took ballroom dancing as a kid and was interested in the show. It has gotten really raunchy. I am old fashioned, (let's face it, I'm getting old!) but we were taught manners in our dance class. Ettiquitte was part of the class. Dresses were worn by the girls. Appropriate length was no shorter than just above the knee. They dance in less than bikinis. Disgraceful. Sorry. Andy Stanley said something in a sermon I heard, " The fashions for women today are what hookers wore back in the 50's." Think about that one! I feel for the parents of today. It is so hard to raise polite, moral children today. I pray for all you parents out there.
God bless you all. mm

Tina - posted on 04/26/2011

1,314

28

301

Unfortunately sex is everwhere. T.V. magazines and could just as easily be picked up from other children as well. Tell her she is pretty and she doesn't need to worry about boys at her age.

22 Comments

View replies by

September - posted on 04/27/2011

5,233

15

695

Don't be sorry Shannin :) You just made the conversation that much more interesting. Good luck with your daughter. I'm sure her comment was just something she overheard.

Shannintipton - posted on 04/27/2011

36,025

50

681

I sorry I mentioned Dancing with the Stars. I happen to like the show and thought that the dancing would be entertaining for the kids, but seeing the sexy comment I have my doubts. So I dont know what to do. I have a week to seek if she does anything else like that. Thanks for you feed back. {:+)

Maryann - posted on 04/27/2011

12

13

0

September, I agree, My sheltering is not from the art form of dancing. It is from the improper dress and talk on the show. Surely you don't think that show is appropriate for a 4 year old! I know that it is not the 50's. I am glad to hear that you are not finding it difficult to raise polite moral children. I gladly stand corrected. Your son is truly blessed. How old is he? ;)

September - posted on 04/27/2011

5,233

15

695

Umm dancing is an art form not something you necessarily need to shelter your kids from. Maryann I do think you're a little old fashion :) It's not the 50's anymore! It's not that hard to raise polite moral children. Our son is proof of that :) Sorry I know my comment has nothing to do with the OP but man that comment from Maryann caught my eye!

Mel - posted on 04/27/2011

5,539

58

228

ahh my 3 yr old knows that word and how to put it in a sentence. She just hears it I guess through other people or tv or whatever. SHe tells me Im sexy

Shannintipton - posted on 04/26/2011

36,025

50

681

FYI.
I think I know where her comment came from. We do watch Dancing With The Stars.But I will keep an eye and ask her about later. thanks again for all you input{:+)

[deleted account]

I agree w/ Kate. She heard it somewhere and understood enough of the concept to use it in context. Worth looking into, but not worth freaking out over or letting HER know how concerned it made you. Hang in there cuz this is only the beginning..... unfortunately. ;)

Kate CP - posted on 04/26/2011

8,942

36

758

I wouldn't be overly concerned, Shannin, but I'd look into it. But don't freak out on her. Then she'll know it's a big deal.

Shannintipton - posted on 04/26/2011

36,025

50

681

This is making me feel a little better, I think. Please feel free ladies to keep the advice coming (to anyone who happens to read this post, thanks) {:+)

Kate CP - posted on 04/26/2011

8,942

36

758

Juleah: The fact that she said she wanted to look sexy for boys leads me to believe she has some idea of what it means. Maybe not a total understanding of the word...but I think it warrants further investigation, personally.

Lisa - posted on 04/26/2011

2

21

0

One word: MEDIA. Girls pick up on these things very early. They see what sells everything... sex and sexy.

JuLeah - posted on 04/26/2011

3,133

38

694

She has heard that. She has no idea what it means, just that another said it.

Shannintipton - posted on 04/26/2011

36,025

50

681

thanks ladies. I have a lot to digest. But between us I was a little . . . more than a little shocked. I will catch my breath watch and observe for now. Thank you so much{:+)

Blackwood - posted on 04/26/2011

0

0

36

I would ignore it or say something along the lines of "yes, hunny your bathing suit is very pretty, I love the colours, flowers, ect". If you pay too much attention to the word "sexy" she may use it more to get a reaction. Sometimes children just pick things up at a store, commerical, conversations. Many times our children are listening and we think they are not. If this kind of behaviour or words come up again. Ask her where did you hear that? or what does she mean?

Shannintipton - posted on 04/26/2011

36,025

50

681

She is four. She goes to preschool. She watches Clifford. Where or how could this have happened. What do I do. Do I stress or ignore. Talk to her. What? I am at a loss. Any suggestion. Please help!!!!!

Kate CP - posted on 04/26/2011

8,942

36

758

It means she's heard some one use the word and some how it was in a context she understood.

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms