I am a mother that has never contributed financially for my now grown child. HOw do you think I should ask to meet her now that she is an adult.

Liz - posted on 02/24/2014 ( 11 moms have responded )

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I never had any dealings with my child and I now would like to meet with her.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/24/2014

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I have to be totally honest with you. If you had kids, and subsequently abandoned them until they were adults, they probably won't want anything to do with you.

And, personally? I don't know what state of mind you were in when you did that, but absolutely NO ONE could have forced me to walk away from my babies, no matter what the situation.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/26/2014

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E, or Liz, or whomever you choose to be today, I'm closing this one to comments as well.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/25/2014

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Contact an attorney. If the children's father(s) have no desire to allow you to contact them, then, in my opinion, that is their right. As I said, even 20 years ago, young women were not forced to give up their children, unless mitigating circumstances at birth (positive testing for drugs in baby's bloodstream) indicate that the birth mother may not be a fit parent. But you make it sound like you went to a clinic, popped out a couple of kids, and then deliberately left them with their fathers for 18+ years. As I've repeatedly stated, I don't doubt that the fathers, and now adult children, have no wish for contact.

If you want to pursue it, you can contact a family attorney to see what your options are, but in cases of parental abandonment, I'm not sure if you have much of a chance.

Liz - posted on 02/25/2014

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well it happened and I am lost on how to begin. I am just waiting to hear back from the fathers now.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/25/2014

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This is not the 1950's, when young women were sent away to deliver the problem and leave it at the orphanage. How were you 'left out'? In this day & age (even 20 years ago), that is not done

Liz - posted on 02/24/2014

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More importantly I was left out and I don't like it. I can't find anyone ever to fight with me on the issue that I have the right to see/meet my children.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/24/2014

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If the child was originally given up, you will need to contact the agency who handled the transaction. If the other parties are in agreement, the agency can give you contact information. If not, then they do not want you to attempt to contact them.

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