I am a recovery addict.named heather. I have no children but I am an addiction counselor for a woman who is a recovering alcoholic serving time in prison in Ocala, Florida. She is riddle with guilt n shame. We are working on this issue. She has an adult son and a 3-4 yo that she is anxious to go home to. She misses and loves them so. I have no experience raising children. Was wondering if I could get some experience, strength n hope from any of u that have been thru this. I will take her it responses. Sincerely, heather

Heather - posted on 08/23/2013 ( 13 moms have responded )

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Sorry didn't know how to do this...typed it all under subject. If u can't get it let me know..we r seriously in need of support. Thank u!

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Heather - posted on 09/13/2013

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Could be a scam!😏lol. Again, if u can't help, don't involve urself. U do not need to know or understand what is going on here. It is not about u. God bless.

Heather - posted on 09/13/2013

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Thank u for ur opinion. It is a part of my job to assist n direct her in finding contacts that will help her. She specifically asked me to find things on the Internet n signed a confidentiality waiver..n I have never shared her name. Yet I have no reason to explain this to u. I know from my education training n experience, that if someone responds to an issue with a bunch of questions that were previously answered..the individual can become discouraged n frustrated. This is not about u or me this is about her. I am we'll aware of the ethics code..and we are all monitored very closely. Thank u for ur concern for my client. As for me, yes I am a recovering addict n proud of it😊

~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/29/2013

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Oh, and if she is in prison, and does not have access to a computer as you previously stated I am not sure how this site would help her.

"Part of my job is to empower her and help her in the beginning to find n seek supportive people that have experience with similar issues n can share their experience strength n hope with her. I am trying to encourage her to reach out for help in many different ways."

Soooooo how would this site help her again if she does not have access in prison and cannot physically leave the grounds to reach out and seek help? Is this person really YOU?

~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/29/2013

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Actually you have no idea what I can, or cannot identify with in my life. Due to your responses, I have a difficult time believing you are a professional counselor of any sort. If this troubled mother came on here herself, I would be talking directly to her, asking questions of where she needs help, or what she would directly want to talk or even vent about. It is difficult talking through a third party like yourself. THAT is why I was encouraging you to have HER come to CoM and discuss her own problems. Also, maybe she does not want her issues being talked about on an open forum for all the internet to read. Also,as you know as a "professional counselor", you should NOT be discussing your patients issues with outsiders. See, that is against the ethics code, right? Up to this point, I had not given you ANY negative feedback.

Like previously stated, this is an open forum. People will come and respond to whatever posts they would like. You cannot dictate the kind of responses you are looking for.

Heather - posted on 08/28/2013

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She is getting counseling n will b getting counseling..I am an addictions counselor. Part of my job is to empower her and help her in the beginning to find n seek supportive people that have experience with similar issues n can share their experience strength n hope with her. I am trying to encourage her to reach out for help in many different ways. Honesty I am grateful that I have had this negative experience here instead of her because something that could b little to u, could be devestating to her. U have never told me whether u can identify with her story or not...if u can't n don't have anything to offer her other than sending her away..then either b a support by saying "sorry I can't identify but good luck to u" or leave it alone..I have spent a lot of time repeating myself throughout my post about what she n I are looking for..if u can't relate then why ask any questions. I made it clear that I am a professional..yes I have my BA n MS..but recovery is holistic which means she needs help from people who can understand relate or are educated in or with her issues. I am sure that u are a wonderful mother..but if u can't identify how can u offer anything other than encouragement. Sometimes we want to understand n help someone that we do not have helpful information(no information) for n because we cant identify it is not for us to understand. Yet we still insist on jumping in (even with good intentions) n end up harming that person instead. I am not harmed..but if this were her..it would've left her feeling frustrated, discouraged, and slighted for the wasted time she spent talking to someone who could not help her due to lack of identification..n unheard because it appeared that u had missed reading some of the lines in each message..the answers were all in the previous post. All I did was repeat the same words. Pls in the future recognize how u could help or hurt the person..n what the difference is between the two. Thank u for ur initiative n ur good heart. Be well!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/28/2013

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This may not be the place for a solution for her, but counseling individually, and with the children may help her. As much wonderful advice as the mothers on this site can offer, professional assistance may be the key for her and her family to repair the damage and heal.

Heather - posted on 08/28/2013

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How to come back and heal the relationship between her and her children..what has worked n has not worked for others in similar situations

~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/26/2013

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Tell her to join CoM and discuss what she would like to know. It is much easier first hand to identify with someone and their concerns rather through a third party.

Heather - posted on 08/23/2013

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Wanting to know if anyone can identify with what she is going thru, any experience strength n hope for her...she is working hard n wants to know others experiences related to hers

~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/23/2013

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I am confused. What exactly are you asking about? How to raise her child, or how to talk with her about her kid??

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