I am a single mom of a 10 month old daughter. Her father sees her at his convenience. He does not pay child support. His mom forces him to be a father to our daughter. She gives me money for child support and supports him financially as well. He works ranch jobs and uses his money to rope and to go see his girlfriend. His mom pays for his phone bills, his car, and he lives under her roof. I let his mom take her every other weekend. He rarelcomes to pick her up with his mom. Only spends an hour to two with her on the weekend. He has never done anything for her. He rarely asks how she is doing. It's upsetting to see him put girls and roping above his daughter. His mom forces him to do things for her like picking her up or feeding her. The only time he ever asks about her or sees her is when he wants or needs something from his mom like money. What should I do?

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Ev - posted on 06/06/2016

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You would deny child support then. I am saying he could come back and decide to be part of her life later. You do not know that he won't. He needs to be held responsible for his child.

Ev - posted on 06/06/2016

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That is not the point. He helped create the child and she deserves to be supported by both of her parents. Get it court ordered.

Ev - posted on 06/06/2016

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Gabriela--You need to set up the custody, visitation and child support. It covers everyone and the parents know their roles regardless of their ages. It is not up to you to decide how much time they get with the child. When she gets older she is going to ask questions and you are going to have to answer them about why she sees her father as little as she does. And if you do not get custody and stuff done now, dad could come back later and want to set up things himself.

Michelle - posted on 06/06/2016

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You need to go to court and get custody, visitation and child support sorted out.
That way everyone knows what is going on. If he chooses not to see her during his time then that's up to him.
No one can make someone be a parent and really his Mother needs to stop treating him like a child. She needs to cut the apron strings and let him be an adult. But that's nothing you can control.

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No one should be forced to want something they don't. Which is what I was saying about his mom in the original post. My daughter is eventually going to get hurt because her dad is being forced to do things he doesn't want to.

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She sees her father that little because that's what he chooses not me. If I could add up the hours (24 in a day) he has spent with her it would add up to less than 5 days since birth. He only sees her at his convenience. If his mom wouldn't ask to pick her up then he probably wouldn't see her at all.

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He rarely even sees her when his mom picks her up. He's off with girls or roping. If he is there it's for less than 3 hours the whole weekend. They see her very little because that's all they asked me for. He doesn't want anything to do with child support. He only sees her at his convenience.

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They see her every other weekend and sometimes every 3-4 weeks. He is 25 years old. I haven't gone to court because right now they see her very little and I rather them see her every other weekend than get more time than that

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